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*reeza
writes:When i was 15 i had an abortion, at the time i thought i was doing the right thing and now 4 years later i think about the baby i could of had everyday! i regret what i have done but i can't change the past. I have been with my bf for 5 years now and are trying for a baby, we've been trieing for about 2 years and i can't get pregnant, i feel so depressed all the time thinking that i will never have the chance to have a beautiful baby of my own. i cant even look at a pregnant lady without bursting into tears. Would it have been the abortion that has troubled me from falling pregnant? i dont know what to do i at breaking point! :(
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reader, vicky121087  +, writes (19 July 2010):
Probably not. However, in rare cases, multiple dilations and curettages (the cleaning out of the uterus, also known as a D&C) can cause some scarring
at the top of the cervix or inside the uterus. A procedure called hysteroscopy (when a small camera is placed through your cervix into your uterine cavity) can be used to check for this problem and can usually repair the scar tissue at the same time. But even if that's not the case for you, you should know that any procedure that dilates the cervix (a necessary step during most abortions) can weaken it. So if you've had more than one abortion and you get pregnant again later on, you may find that you have what's known as an incompetent cervix — a cervix that starts dilating prematurely. This can sometimes be treated with a stitch to keep the cervix closed, called a cerclage. On the bright side, having conceived before proves that you ovulate and that your fallopian tubes are open.
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (9 July 2010):
 Some women will not be able to have kids after having an abortion, but if that was the case with you, they would or at least should have told you when you had it done. (My mum had an abortion but then had me).
Usually it shouldn't take more than a year to get pregnant when trying so I would say go to th doctors to have some tests done and they'll be able to tell you if you can get pregnant and what methods you should use.
Stress can play a part in your fertility, so if you're under a lot of stress try to cut it down if possible.
Good Luck, I hope it works out for you soon
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reader, mystiquek  +, writes (9 July 2010):
 First of all, I am sorry for how sad you feel. I can certainly understand the feelings that you are having. I am not a doctor, so I only have my own experiences and the experiences of others to draw from, but unless you had a botched abortion or complications from one, you technically SHOULD be able to get pregnant. There could be alot of factors involved, and without a medical examination, there is no way to know for certain. Have you discussed your concerns and fears with your OB/GYN??? That is certainly the best place to start. And I know it sounds crazy, but you really can sometimes try too hard! Please go to your doctor and tell them everything. Tests can be run on both you and your guy and then you can go from there. I wish you all the best!
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