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writes:Today I saw a show on TLC about great people, great couples not being able to have children and it broke my heart. I have a son and I'm not wanting to do the pregnancy thing over again but I cant help but want to help. I'm a full-time student and I don't know if should be a saragent or a egg donor but I'm considering it. What do you think? I know my boyfriend will be mad. Is this crazy? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): Hey!
I hope I didnt come across as to up myself or anything,
It is ultimately your choice what you do, but I waas just giving you my opinion.
I would not want to see anyone go through what my friend did again, and there are loads of babies who need adopting. I was adopted to maybe Im biased (ok I knwo I am!!) but its still a valid option.
Sorry if i sounded patronising.
I hope you can make this decision, its up to you, theres good things and bad things.
And Im sorry to say this but Genna Bullock is not really being helpful here... soz!
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reader, Gena Bullock +, writes (14 March 2008):
 Eighteen doesn't mean you make GOOD decisions; it isn't the 'magic number' for teens to be all grown up, so--you get OFF YOUR HIGH HORSE. Your mum should have whipped you good when you were little instead of letting you talk so rudely to those you are asking advice. Besides, you're the one who wrote "YOUNG AND CONFUSED"!!!!!! and you still ARE!
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reader, youngandconfused90 +, writes (13 March 2008):
youngandconfused90 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Im 18 now and I'll do what i please, so please get off your high horse lady!
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reader, Gena Bullock +, writes (13 March 2008):
You are TOO young to make such decisions. Your boyfriend is just a boyfriend, not a husband so what you do is your business; however, I am sure your parents would NOT approve of such a thing and at your age, the thought is 'sweet' but nothing more. Consider riding a bike...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): I have had friends who donated eggs, and it totally ruined their lives for about a year. You have to have loads of hormone injections that make you bloated and fat and moody and bitchy. My friend alienated all of us, and was totally miserable, then you have to have loads of doctors appointments and they take your eggs with a needle and it hurts loads apparently.
Im saying this because theres loads of babies out there who need adopting, and if a couple wants to be a family that much, they will be as happy and loving to an adopted baby as they will to some random persons egg. Really, think about all the babies who could have wonderful families, if you dont donate eggs, but who might grow up forever in an orphanage if you do!
I know this sounds a bit dire but I dont think it really needs to be done. Plus if it will make your bf mad, why do it when the parents could have a family another way!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 I hope that you don't take offense, but I think that you should wait a few more years and then make a decision. You have the best of intentions and should be commended for them and for your kindness. I think that you are very young and a VERY busy young mother. It takes the human body about three years to get back to normal after giving birth, physically. Emotionally, well, we are very emotional when we have young children and our hormones are getting back to normal. It might seem like a wonderful, selfless thing to do, but I would wait until life was a bit more back to normal and make the decision then. You might be more attached emotionally to the thought of your eggs developing into a child and have doubts about it later, and that wouldn't be good for either you or the prospective parents. You have plenty of eggs and enough time to donate them for at least five or ten years from now if you still feel the same way! Don't jump into this straight away, give yourself a bit of time to reflect on all of the implications that might crop up. It's not a decision that you can take back if you should have a change of heart afterwards. You should also consider your boyfriends opinion if he is your life's partner, and out of respect to your relationship and to your child's father, his opinions should count too.
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 Sit on it for a while. You only saw the show today, it's not something you should just jump into. If you're serious about it, give it at least six months' consideration, ask opinions, get yourself very well-informed on the subject - it's a big decision.
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