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writes:I have (in my opinion) a very complicated situation. I really like this girl who lives in a completely different continent than I do. I met her in my old school, and shes nearly a year older than me. We didn't talk much to eachother since we were in different grades and we were so young. When she moved, we were about 8. I liked her then, and I like her now, but it took many years for me to find her on Facebook. We talked a few times about random things, and then Valentines Day came, I sent her a card, and since then she hasnt spoken to me, told me why shes not talking, and everytime I go online, she either intentionally or not, goes offline. I dont know what I've done wrong, but am willing to do pretty much anything even just to be her friend at first. I've already heard a lot of stuff like: "let her go" or "thats pathetic" ( as it probably is), but I really dont want to hear it anymore so please...just help me in any way you can. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): It isn't pathetic, you took a chance and sent her a valentine. OK so she wasn't interested, so let her go and find someone nearer. At least you tried - a lot of people are afraid to.
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (23 December 2010):
 It is very sweet to send a card on Valentine's day, but in fairness, you haven't seen each other in years and if you've only chatted a few times about random things, then she could be a little freaked out by this quite forward gesture. I think that what you did was a very romantic idea, and not that many guys your age do that. When you do get a girlfriend I am sure that your romance will be appreciated and although I feel for you and your situation at the moment, the best advice I can give you is to move on from this girl and find someone else.
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): It's not pathetic to like someone and sending that card was very sweet but the thing is, if she isn't interested there isn't much you can do.The more you contact her the more you'll push her away.
Do you know much about her? Do you know if she's even single? You've tried and i commend you for that but sometimes it just doesn't work. If she wants to contact she's knows how but she hasn't.
I know it's tough and you want people to tell you that things will be ok and you'll end up with her but it's not going to happen. Holding on to false hope is just a waste of time and energy. Don't you think you deserve to be with someone who feels just as strongly as you do?
You are going to have to accept that she's not interested. Once you do things will be so much easier and you'll start to move on. Don't let it get you down, there will be plenty of girls, even better than her and you'll meet them.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (23 December 2010):
 The sad truth is that if she doesn't want to communicate with you, there's nothing you can do about it. Disappointing, yes.
She most likely is ignoring you because while she is only a year older, both of you - even if you're only 14 - are still pretty young for relationship stuff. I don't know if you have access to Skype - or if she does - but I believe you have to be a certain age (18) to use it. Even so, what are the prospects you'd actually be able to meet any time soon, or in the future?
Another thought: she might have been put off to learn you put so much time and effort into finding her. Particularly since neither of you lives locally and can't really even be casual friends.
One more: Perhaps her parents feel this connection is inappropriate and have advised her to that effect.
I don't think you've done anything wrong (cold comfort, I know) only you don't really have much choice as to what you can do about it........except focus on your schooling, enjoy your friends, family and activities here and now.
Sorry.
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