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writes:I was in a very loving, caring relationship with a guy for almost two years. At the end of July he had to move to Pennsylvania for grad school, and I stayed here in Hawaii to finish my undergrad degree. He will be there for the next year and a half, and I have to be in Hawaii for at least two years. We still talk fairly frequently and care for each other a lot. If circumstances had been different and he didn't move for grad school, I'm sure we would still be happily together. But, we won't be in the same place for more than a month or two for the next year and a half, possibly longer. (The next time I'll see him is December, for a few weeks.) We aren't technically doing a long-distance relationship because we both agree that it isn't fair to either of us to wait for each other, but the "end" of the relationship just felt so premature, like we would have been together for a while more if we were still in the same place - it didn't really feel like an ending. (Right know we're in a "let's see what happens" situation.)My common sense is saying I should move on... but I'm a hopeful person and keep wondering if we might be able to keep it going, so something is stopping me from really getting over him in case it isn't actually over...Should I just move on?
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reader, Confuzzled012 +, writes (18 September 2009):
 It's called "common sense' for a reason and that's because it's common and it's sensible. So most people you ask will tell you to. Listen to yourself. You know what's best for you.
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reader, busy04 +, writes (18 September 2009):
 I think that if you feel deep down & if your common sense is telling you that you should be moving on & going forward, then do that. From what it seems, you guys are doing well with more of just the friendship/caring aspect of a relationship, which is always good. So you could stay friends with each other for now & like you said you guys can just see what happens. You both are young (I'm guessing), so who's to say that you two won't come back around to being with each other in the future.
On the other hand, I believe that if you both were to settle in the same place & be stable enough to stay there and work on it. It could develop into more, but that has to be a strong mutual commitment between the two of you. You're both in studies so that has to be considered & long distance is hard and it seems that's your main issue, even though you guys aren't officially in a relationship. So you would both have to work for it and be dedicated to each other even more. But you have to really believe in your heart that, you being together will really happen one day.
I hoped that I helped you, at least a little bit :)
Good luck with your studies & I wish you the best!
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reader, egrl202 +, writes (18 September 2009):
common sense dont lie
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