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writes:I've been dating this girl for four months and i was aware she was a slut by the time i got involved with her but i thought she was going to change as time goes on but she didnt. I use to call her a slut and she kept on telling me that she was not involve with anyone beside me and im hurting her and i believed in her. One saturday night we wr at bash and that were she showed her true colours to me. She did crazy things, flirting and kissing on guys and the next morning i asked her about what she's been doing there then she couldn't tell me the truth then i went asking her friend and i got exactly what happend and im heartbroken. She is angry with me now coz ive went behind her back seeking news. Must i still love her or what?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (7 September 2010):
 you're not obligated to do something. It's like that old saying,"Do something dummy even if it's wrong!" Well you can choose a downward spiral or the high ground. If i were you I'd take the high ground so start hiking. Leave her to her destiny in misery.
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reader, answerfromtheheart  +, writes (7 September 2010):
 If you cannot trust her, you should let her go. Going behind her back to find out what went on at the party is not a good source of information. The friends might have ulterior motives to telling you something.If you have doubt about her loyalty and you cannot trust her, you shouldn't be in a relationship with her. Calling a girl a slut shows lack of respect. You should ask yourself what kind of a guy are you that you are dating a slut? If you were at the bash with her and she was flirting and kissing other guys in front of you than why did you need to find out what happened. Isn't that enough proof that she's not into you.If you were not there, asking HER friends would not help. If it's a good friend, they will always be on her side, if they are bashing her and telling you something that makes her look bad, they are not her friends and you should really consider whether you can trust that information.
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reader, bma.com +, writes (7 September 2010):
 You are wrong for calling her a slut. By calling her and reminding her she was a slut only reminded her of how much she meant to you. No marriage here, She will alway's be a slut to you. Move on when you have a chance.When you hook up with a woman try to remember where you met her at in the first place. Church, Bar, Bash, Be careful who and when you choose it can be a life altering decision.Good Luck
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reader, dirtball +, writes (7 September 2010):
 You don't have to do anything you don't want to. If she was out screwing around, then I'd drop her. It's not worth the risk.
Holding someone's past against them is wrong in a relationship, but present actions are a different story. She's trying to manipulate the situation by "being mad" at you when she knows she's the one who did wrong. It's an old tactic that works a lot of the time.
I'd run before she gives you an STD. People don't change for anyone other than themselves. She doesn't want to change so how she was is who she will be.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (7 September 2010):
 Youve definately got an attraction for her. Have some respect for her and stop calling her a 'slut'. It can only improve. The girl has already told you that she doesnt like it and you've probably pushed her away now. If you want to try again apologize to her and treat her like a lady. I'm sure if you can she will most probably love you for it. Don't always believe what you hear about people, make your own judgements. There's obviously something very nice inside about her because you seem to care. Hope this helps
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reader, rcn +, writes (7 September 2010):
 you may, but is this the best for you? what do you want in a relationship? it's time for you to decide that, and if being with someone who acts this way does not fit within what you are looking for, you may need to make a change. you don't need to be in a relationship where you might get hurt over and over again. remember it's her decision to mess around, but it's your decision if you stay with her as she is or not.
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