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writes:I am in love, and have been for 2 years. but I have serious trust issues, I even see a therapist about my turst issues. I recently learned my boyfriends email passwords and have been looking in his email and its making me crazy. I can't stop. I want to because mainly for two reasons, I love him and he trusts me and the other reason is because it causes me anxiety. the way I see it is that I have three choices, I can either just stop looking in his emails and hope that my conscience stops bothering me or I can keep lookin and make my self crazy or I can tell him that I have been looking then have him change his passwords but that may ruin the trust he has in me and maybe lose the best man I have ever known. Any suggestions? I am leaning towards the first choice. but I am having trouble quitting can someone please help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, eddie  +, writes (28 August 2007):
 If you've found nothing to be worried about....stop looking and make note of your regret for snooping. Be happy you found nothing and move forward. You should be happy he's done nothing wrong. Is part of your issue that you look for ways to sabotage things?
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reader, Katie-ann  +, writes (28 August 2007):
 Have you been cheated on in the past? Either way you need to accept that this man has been with you for a long time and must love you very much. I think that unless you have any genuine suspicions you need to let go. Talk to him and tell him your insecurities, he will appreciate your honesty, it may bring you closer together, and he may be able to sooth your worries. I think if you tell him gently and help him understand your thoughts, if he is this best man then he will understand and help you. If you dont tell him and just stop looking there is always that temptation to look again.Hope this helps, Xx
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reader, Just a Girl... +, writes (28 August 2007):
 im exactly the same. my boyfriend is loyal and only has eyes for me but whenever he lets me use his phone i have the urge to go thru it. in the end i had to confess because i felt so bad. personally i think the only way to solve t is to be honest. it clears the air xxx
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