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writes:Hi, so me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years, I'm 25 and he is 29, we both have good jobs, we both have a car, we own a condo, we have a great little life, but...We want to have a baby. We have been trying for a few months, we want it to just happening, no drugs, or timing, or anything, but the thing is...... I'm still not pregnant. We have sex everyday sometimes more ( and were not just doing it to get pregnant, it feels right, were still enjoying it ( some people told me when there trying to get pregnant, it feels like they have to do it and don't want to. That's not us) so I don't know what were doing wrong. Hope you can help!! Thanks for reading!! :)
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reader, romany  +, writes (24 December 2010):
 Thats fab news, congratulations!!!! Merry Xmas to you both.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (19 December 2010):
 Great, now I wish that I could get preg too!
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reader, almc +, writes (19 December 2010):
almc is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys!!!! Just found out that I'm prego! Thanks so much
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reader, almc +, writes (5 August 2010):
almc is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks so much for all your help! :) ill let you know when or if I become pergnant.
If nothing happenings within the year well go see a doctor and see if everything is ok. Thanks for your help.
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reader, LucyandMikeforever +, writes (5 August 2010):
 Just relax take a break from it for a week or so. The start trying again but don't worry and don't think about it and it will happen. The more you think about it the longer it will take. Trust me I'm 4 months pregnant right now thats what worked for me.
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reader, az2010 +, writes (5 August 2010):
dont worry thats the way i was too .. me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex and i didnt get pregnate .. it was all good at first we where so happy and we kept having unprotected sex and after a while it was wired i wouldn't end up pregnant we got scard and we would asked our self if it was me or him or what was wrong .. i wanted to get pregnant and i wouldn't we try and try... and ppl would tell me to not think about it bc if u think about it too much it wont happed .. at the end i finally got prego and had a miscarriage .. i thought i wasn't gonna get pregnant again and about 3 months later i got pregnant again and now i have a precious baby .. you should really stop thinking about it and just let it happed .. have sex lots of it but don't think about getting pregnant if you do your mind controls your body and it dosent let you have what you want .. hope this helps
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reader, Kenj +, writes (5 August 2010):
 You could just trying too hard.
You should both try refraining from sex for a week and dont focus on your goal of becoming pregnant as it will add to stress and expectation. Don’t get disillusioned either and never give up hope.
If you still are having trouble then maybe you should both go and see your doctor just to check everything is ok.
Hope it works out for you both.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (5 August 2010):
Oh u and I are in the same boat..Weve been trying for 4 months now..Ive tracked my ovulation, and I fear something may be wrong. 85% that try to conceive, conceive in their first yr of trying..Now Idk if this is true well see. The only info I can offer u is Pree-seed its a form of lube thats sperm friendly, no spit, ky none of that it can slow down the sperm to ur egg, sit a lil while after sex, and do track ur ovulation when ur eggs are the ripest. But goodluck to u, and baby dust to u too!
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reader, romany +, writes (5 August 2010):
Hiya,
You've not stated what form of contraception you were on before you started trying for a baby, but if it was implant, coil (IUD) with hormone, contraception pill, it could take months before your body is clear enough to concieve.
If however, you were using condoms, or other barriers, then it could be that your both wanting it too much, and stress can cause your hormones to go wild, Also too much a sex can be a problem, as you need 'his little fellas' in top form, with plenty of them to do the job.
I know from close hand experience that some Dr's in the UK, dont give test without couples trying for years in some cases, and I dont know how it works in Canada, but i'd say if your worried, get yourself off to your doctor and get tested, but i think you'll find, once you both calm down a bit, and stop stressing bout things, you'll fall.
I know how you feel, with the disappointment every month and the hopefull and wishful thinking everytime your lying there trying not to move incase it stops the sperm for penetrating the egg, lol, as if anyone can stop that from happening.
I wish you well and luck. x
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reader, romany +, writes (5 August 2010):
Hiya,
You've not stated what form of contraception you were on before you started trying for a baby, but if it was implant, coil (IUD) with hormone, contraception pill, it could take months before your body is clear enough to concieve.
If however, you were using condoms, or other barriers, then it could be that your both wanting it too much, and stress can cause your hormones to go wild, Also too much a sex can be a problem, as you need 'his little fellas' in top form, with plenty of them to do the job.
I know from close hand experience that some Dr's in the UK, dont give test without couples trying for years in some cases, and I dont know how it works in Canada, but i'd say if your worried, get yourself off to your doctor and get tested, but i think you'll find, once you both calm down a bit, and stop stressing bout things, you'll fall.
I know how you feel, with the disappointment every month and the hopefull and wishful thinking everytime your lying there trying to move incase it stops the sperm for penetrating the egg, lol, as if anyone can sto and I wish you well and luck. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2010): I know it's easier said than done, but try to relax. What birth control were you on? It can take a while for the pill to get out your system, if you were using that. Give it time and if you still not happening like sunnycomet said go an see your doctor.
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reader, sunnycomet +, writes (5 August 2010):
 "We want to have a baby. We have been trying for a few months..."
Don't worry about it. :) It might take a bit longer then a few months. Go see a doctor if you feel concerned.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2010): First you might want to get an ovulation test [ it tells you the three days you are most likely to get get pregnant, this only happens a few days every month] Plus it can take up to a year to get pregnant. If you have been trying for over a year I suggest going to a doctor so they can do some tests and see if there is something with you or your partners fertility. I wish you guys the best of luck and hope you get pregnant! [sounds odd, usually its the opposite on this website!] :]
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