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writes: I broke up with my b/f of 3 yrs approxmately 8 months ago because he didn't seem to voalize his love for me and he seemed to wanna me with his buddies more often then me. We both dated other people during the break and rarely spoke to each other. We reciently reconnected and to my suprise we're not over each other we still want each other. THough he wants me to take my time and he is nervous because i broke up with him and it was very difficult time in his life. he did mention that "theres a will theres a way" i hope so considering hes a 3 hr drive away at school.My heart tells me to go for it but is it right?
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reader, Ed1337  +, writes (26 January 2009):
 If it eneded last time because he was messing you around or treating you badly, then you should really think twice about giving him a second chance. People don't change their spots or suddenly become this new person who has seen the light, most of the time they will revert back to how they used to be when you broke up.
If you left him for other reasons, then I guess its worth giving him another go. I would use your head more than your heart tho.
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reader, lovesalias  +, writes (26 January 2009):
 Honey... I say if your heart tells you to go for it you should! You only live once right! Besides if you don't you will have to live with the what ifs for the rest of your life. Good Luck I wish you much luck and happiness in whatever road you choose to take.
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reader, carriebaby +, writes (26 January 2009):
 Firstly, hes an ex for a reason. MY personal opionion is that never go back to ex's but you gotta go with your heart. chances are he will not have changed, yes im sure he misses you and probably realizes he took you for granted but i can see him falling back into his old ways once he has you back. i think you will get hurt again and this time it will be harder, its obvious you still love this guy but my advice is to be careful.let me no how u get on x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009): I suppose it all depends on why you both broke up in the first place and whether those reasons are still valid, I'm sure it is possible to get back with an ex.
I'm also sure there are many cases of successful relationships with ex's, but in my experience things tend to revert back to the same old routine after a while and the original reasons for the break up most often reappear.
If the original break up was really bad then it is hard to get past that and it will always be there.
I don't see any reason you shouldn't try though, if that's what you both want then it might be worth a making a go of it again.
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