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writes: I have a dilemma. Can you be in love with someone but not have a strong sexual desire to be with them? I've been dating this girl for about 5 months and i'm crazy about her...and I know she's crazy about me. Problem is, she told me about a previous FWB relationship and stated that the sex was "really good." She basically said that it was only about the sex. She and I have been intimate and on my end, it was great. On her end, I know she enjoyed it but lately she hasn't seemed that interested in being intimate. My brain is blowing this whole thing outta proportion...but I feel like I don't measure up to this other dude and it pisses me off, especially because she isn't "all over me" yet she was in this previous relationship only for the sex (which she said was good). She says she's falling for me. So, my question is, can you fall in real love with somebody whom you don't have a strong sexual attraction to? Thanks for the comments and the help. Reply to this Question
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reader, Neboraic  +, writes (6 May 2009):
Yeah you can, that is the case with married couples. Or what about films, on one end you have the visually appealing, exciting films, beautiful cast, beautiful locations, lots of colour but sometimes no plot. Or you have the dark gritty visuals and great characters and story.
Infact, when i look at reminisce over the girls i have liked in the past, with the girls i really liked, the sexual attraction was always small (but still present)
So maybe she is falling for you, but without the sexual attraction you are missing a part of the relationship. It can exist without it but its better with it.
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reader, catgirl222222 +, writes (6 May 2009):
 Of course you can! Relationships don't have to revolve around sex. Your girlfriend may seem very interested in it, but if that's all her previous relationship was based around, then being with you can only be completely different and amazing to what she has experienced. She is lucky to have you.
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