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reader, adamantine  +, writes (15 July 2011):
 I made a friend online late 2009, and have spoken to him every day since. We have yet to meet, but we are meeting in 5 days time. He's flying to visit me and he's staying with me for 3 months.
Why so long? We get along well. We make each other happy. We've seen each other laugh and cry (through webcam..). The only thing missing is that we have yet to touch each other. I think removing the physicality from the relationship allows you to get to know the person on a deeper level. This is what I have experienced, anyway.
There are many people who have done the same I found, on a forum at lovingfromadistance.com. It's not all that common, but it does happen :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2011): I think you can think you have but really you don't know a person until you have met them and spent quite a lot of time with them.
I wrote to someone on a dating site for a long time and got emotionally involved but really I was hoping for something and trying to fill a gap. Afterwards I realised I had been quite stupid. It's easily done and quite common I think.
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reader, xAngeliquex +, writes (8 July 2011):
 I am not sure I completely agree. I think people who have never experienced it might believe it's impossible, just as I did before I met someone on there. I definitely think there's a chance you can fall in love with someone you have never met. There is someone that I have spoken to for the past year and a half just online and on the phone and although it took me a long time, I feel like I am feeling these feelings. I think body language and general human interaction is a large part in knowing whether you love someone I agree, but seeing this person only a weekly basis on web camera and ringing most days per week made me think this exact question. I just think bottom line, if we can make each other laugh and stand to talk to each other that much then surely we are compatible in the ways that it matters. You know what he looks like, what he moves like, what he speaks like, what he IS like, you just don't know what he feels like - Yet! And surely that will just intensify everything:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2011): Thanks for the feedback. My situation is quite different, but I am meeting next month after talking to him online and on the phone for a year! Wish me luck! I have good feelings about this :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 July 2011):
 I completely agree here. I really don't think you can truly fall for someone unless you have met them and figured out if you are both compatible together. Sure you can develop strong feelings for someone talking to them daily over the internet, they can become a big part of your life and you would miss them if it where to stop. But sometimes what you get over the internet is not the same as having the person sitting there beside you. Body language is a huge part of it and over the internet you do not get that interaction. It is only words and anyone can write words its actions that count. However in saying that sometimes it can be a good basis for a relationship to start and grow from.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 July 2011):
 I do not think you can. I think that it can be a good foundation for meeting someone who you do fall in love with.
I would not discount the strong feelings you have... But be aware that what comes across the computer screen will be different from what it is in real life even if the person is not trying to put on a show.
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reader, steelpicker +, writes (5 July 2011):
 I am afraid I don't think so. I have believed myself to be once, but I wasn't in love. It's the idea that one falls in love with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2011): yes ,i am 13 & i strongy believe you can love the person you've never met before . yes maybe he or she is probably not good looking as you imagined . but i personaly loved someone myself . for 11 months now . & still till this day never met . i always wanted to meet him . but never got the chance to . even though he lives minutes from me ... we stopped talking but i can honestly say i love him with all my heart . i dont care if he's fat . i dont care if he's stupid . i know that i fell in love with his heart . not his looks ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2011): I met my husband on a dating site. We talked online and over the phone for 4 months and we fell in love before we met. 2 months after meeting we got married and we'd do it all over again. Our 11 year anniversaries coming up.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (5 July 2011):
 In all honestly I don't think you can. I think you fall for what you are thinking the person is like which may or may not change after you meet the person.
I have fallen for the idea of girls before actually being with and meeting them but never actually seeing a relationship being possible the more you get to know them.
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