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*issappletree
writes:I have a few issues on my mind currently, i'll put them in one lot and make it brief so i may get answers.a)My ex, who now has a girlfriend, decided to message me saying he still loves me, and when him+his gf split, would i take him back? (i told him he was being unfaithful to her, but deep down i still like him enough to maybe give him another go, should i do it?)b)This new guy i thought i liked has told me he likes another girl, i'm trying to get over him, but i feel i need to be there for him too, as he recently failed his AS levels, his parents split up, and his friend just died.Whats the best thing to do?c)My so called best friend is cheating on her boyfriend , she constantly piles her problems on me and doesn't even listen to my needs.We used to have fun but now I don't know how much more i can take.d)I'm the agony aunt for my group of friends, it's nice to know i can be there for people but i need an outlet myself, but i feel i shouldnt say as they all have their own issues.*takes deep breath*Help?Thank you :/
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (16 August 2008):
 Agony aunts think alike! lol!I'm so glad I could assure you. Hopefully we'll see you here often!
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reader, Missappletree +, writes (16 August 2008):
Missappletree is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Psycookie, these answers were in my head all along but i just needed some reassurance, i'm so glad i was right.
Also,this afternoon the person my friend was cheating on told her they could no longer see each other, and she split with her boyfriend.
Thank you.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (16 August 2008):
A)I don't think it will be a good idea. Remember that he's an ex for a good reason and you still having feelings for him is reasonable too. Now, it's very wise to tell him that he's cheating on her, but don't you think he will do the same thing to someone else once he starts going out with you? This guy could have had you before he got the new girlfriend, but he didn't do anything at all, so why ask you now that he's unavailable?
B)I think you should stay by his side. Even though he doesn't want anything romantic with you, he still needs a friend for this difficult time for him. Be a good friend and stay with him and please don't expect anything back. He really needs you.
C)You have to tell her off that she's being unfair with her boyfriend. Part of being a best friend is to tell them the truth when they're doing something incorrect besides giving all the suport you can. Tell her what you have just told us in here. If she's the best friend she really is, she will see through her own blindness. I know this is kind of hard to ask for, but you have to do this. What she does is not only morally incorrect, but it's also affecting you too. Tell her.
D)I feel that same way too. But you know, you could use this place as your outlet, just like you just did. It feels better to let go of all you had in mind, doesn't it?
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reader, tryin2helpu +, writes (16 August 2008):
 well...
a) why did you and ur bf break up?
b) try to get your moind of this guy
c) tell you best friend she needs to stop cheating... it will only lead to biggerproblems that you dont want to deal with.
d) tell your friends you need help too that u cant only solve there problems....
it sounds to me like yous a wondeful person & a great! friend... and if you ever need to talk message me :)
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