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writes:heyme and my bf are best friends very much in love but we are very very different. our hobbis are different we like different music, wear different clothes and come from different cultures. however deep down we have the same core beliefs. we are both devoted christians and are in one mind about the important things in life. and we can tell each other anything, that we couldnt tell anybody else.ive heard that opposites attract but dont last. i hope to marry this guy one day, but am worried if the difference are going to be a big factor one day?
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reader, nice boy  +, writes (27 December 2009):
 yes it will work. if you can tell each other things you can't tell anyone else then you are even better off being different with other things because that way you can always find something to discuss. it will last don't worry.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (27 December 2009):
 Yes and no.
I see it as such, if they complement each other, then it can work. If they oppose each other, it can't.
Take an extrovert and an introvert. Can they make it? Yes, if the extrovert occasionally longs for a bit of quiet and the introvert want on occasion to socialize. She can pull him out of his shell and he can give her some rest.
What doesn't work are far simpler differences, she is a clean freak, he has a cat to do the dishes. They don't complement each other, it is instead open warfare.
The biggest difference can be overcome and the smallest can drive you apart. Just see how many marriages have broken up over the bathroom.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 December 2009):
If you love each other, if you can communicate, and if you trust each other and are willing to compromise, then it can last.
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reader, meg2989 +, writes (27 December 2009):
 There are always going to be differences in a relationship, however opposites can and do last. My grandpa and grandma were like that, they had completely different opinions about everything! From politics, to different fashion styles, to very different backrounds even though they were from the same culture. They were married for 53 years, until she passed away. And even now he always says he sees her in his dreams and she talks to him about what its like where she is now. I know it sounds odd, but he loved her so much the bond never broke, even after death. I think being entirely opposite just keeps the relationship interesting, but your core values are whats going to bond you and keep you close. As long as you can always talk to eachother and work things out, like you are already doing, I believe that you will stay together. Just keep in mind as food for thought: all relationships, while they are based on love, they are also work, but as long as you are worth it to each other to always love one another and work on your relationship, then you will definitly stay together.
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