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*nloveXangel
writes:Hey, 6 months ago i met my boyfriend through msn and have been together 4 months now, 2 days ago he moved down to be with me. We love each other but i was wondering if my mum can stop me seeing him? im 16 and hes 27. Please give me good advice x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2008): i think that whenever your 17 your allowed to go above your parents rules.
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reader, InloveXangel +, writes (30 November 2007):
InloveXangel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou :)
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (22 November 2007):
 Glad to hear that it's all worked out for you! Best of luck with School, Mom and Boyfriend.
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reader, InloveXangel +, writes (22 November 2007):
InloveXangel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell my mum has now met him been going out 7 months and im happy. She likes him and im NOT some underage tramp you d**k, if i was that i would have met someone his age before and done stuff with him so go and answer someone elses question!!! at 16 i can see anyone i like.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): please dont do that before marriage. first marry and then have that please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2007): Listen you asked fo the advice so just take it don't get angry with us we are just giving our opinions. and your mum met your dad when she was 16. Different times. a lots different now, there's a lot of sick people nowadays
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reader, Gemini1506 +, writes (6 September 2007):
Your mum's only looking out for you. She dnt want to see her daughter get hurt. Seriously look at it from her point of view. But if you really do like him, why dnt you arrange for them to meet and see how it goes and allow your mum to ask all the questions she needs to ask.Or why dnt you wait and get to knw him properly tthings aint always as they seem
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): You're 16? Okay, what do you think of the other guys your own age who mess around with trampy little girls way younger than you?Well, as far as the other 27-year-old women are concerned, your BF is one of those guys. And you're one of the underage tramps.It's that simple. Do whatever you want, but don't kid yourself about who this guy really is and what you're doing.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (4 September 2007):
 As long as you live under your Mum's roof you have to abide by the rules, her rules. Over and out.
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reader, Escalaya +, writes (4 September 2007):
 Ma'am, if you knew this:
"He cannot be arrested at all or go to jail because at 16 people can fuck whoever they want without their parents say!!!"
You pretty much answered your own question, why'd you bother answering a question you already know the answer to?
The fact is, hun. Even in the UK, until you are 18, your parents pretty much own you. (Sad, I know.) The age of consent MAY be 16, but legally, you, and that boyfriend of yours MUST abide by your mothers wishes, are she can have him arrested.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (4 September 2007):
You sound like you are transferring all your anger to us and we're not your Mum. I think that you sound like you are on the defense and reacting to everything instead of listening and discussing things. Have you done the same thing with your Mum? It sounds like you had a battle and left home in a huff, and now your Mum has dug her heels in and you are worried about what she could do. Is that the situation? When you chose to live with this man, you became a grown up. SO - You have to calm things down with your Mum. Have you even introduced them? I can tell you, she is scared out of her mind right now, worrying about what he's like and how the two of you are going to make it. I know that for a fact. She loves you. The right thing to do would be inviting her to meet him. You're proud of him and want your Gran, Mum and boyfriend to all get along, right? You and your boyfriend have created this situation, and you need to use your words to get everything smoothed over again. You will always need your Mum. The sooner you talk it out, the better.
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reader, InloveXangel +, writes (4 September 2007):
InloveXangel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhen my mum was 16 she met my dad who was 25/26 at the time so she cant say anything and no its not creepy at all. I am not going to get pregnant or anything like that!! i start college tomorrow so ill still have education and ill know where my lifes been when im older and i can say i enjoyed it aswell. He cannot be arrested at all or go to jail because at 16 people can fuck whoever they want without their parents say!!! i consented so nothing can be done about it. Yes i have met up with him loads in the past 6 months and now he has moved down here to be wi me so he cant just be after sex can he? You can say all you want about this but if my mum called the police on him, i would not speak to her again and i mean it. But honestly i dont think she expects any different of me but ive looked it up and spoke to my nan about it and my mum can disagree who i go out with but cant stop me
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (4 September 2007):
Picture yourself in the same situation. When You are a 27 year old woman, do you want to be with a 16 year old boy? Don't you think that's is a bit suspect? Your Mom doesn't want to ruin your life - she gave it to you!!! Her whole happiness rests with YOU being happy and successful in life! When she tells you that she's concerned about something, you should try to listento her! She think's that there is something a bit off with a 27 year old grown man who wants to be with a 16 year old girl/woman. We all do. He needs to date someone his own age and so do you. It is not only illegal, it's kind of creepy and bordering on molestation. My son is 25 and he would think that a 27 year old looking at a 16 year old was a loser that couldn't get a date with a woman his own age, or couldn't handle one. You might not like hearing any of this, but there's something wrong with the whole situation. There are a lot of creeps out there on the internet. Try finding a few new groups at school and out of school to meet some different people your own age.
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reader, Escalaya +, writes (4 September 2007):
But still, in the UK your parents still have right to forbid you seeeing him, until you're 18.
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reader, cuninglingwist +, writes (3 September 2007):
Well you can always sneak away and see him without her knowing, so you can take all the cock and cum you want, get pregnent, ruin your life, see him go to jail for rape for 20 years, go on welfare with no education, get fat!then see your kid do the same thing! before he gets out of jail,then one day wake up and wonder where your life went!
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reader, LilWun23 +, writes (3 September 2007):
ur mother can do anything and everything she wants to considering the fact that ur only 16. especially call the cops on him because he is way too old for u which tends to freak people out
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reader, InloveXangel +, writes (3 September 2007):
InloveXangel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI dont live in america love!!! at 16 you are able to have sex legally so the age difference is therefore not illegal
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reader, InloveXangel +, writes (3 September 2007):
InloveXangel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell its not because at 16 you are able to have sex so its not illegal is it?
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reader, Escalaya +, writes (3 September 2007):
Yes, while you are under the age of 18, your parents can forbid whatever they want. Also I believe an age difference of 16 - 27 is illegal.
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reader, pink_fairy22 +, writes (3 September 2007):
 Hey, Hmm your mum does have a right to be concerned, meeting people over the internet isnt always so good. Have you been meeting up a lot in these 6 months? If so and you have got to know him a lot face to face it may not be so bad :). I can understand your mum maybe not liking the age different as it is a rather large gap. Have you talked to her and explained how you feel about him?
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