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30-35,
anonymous
writes:So..hello.Recently, My boyfriend and I have been going out for 1 year and about 6 months and before that on and off for about 6 months..we've been though alot for that amount of time. Cheating on his part. and I lost my virginity to him. But now, there was a big mistake on my part, i cursed him out..and he got hurt, I guess, and we broke up 3 days later. Now, 3 more days later, we got back together, as of yesterday 7-21-08. but he says i have to win back his love, and trust and bascially everything all over again. I think i truly do love him, and i just wish things were how they were before..even though he is disrespectful and rude..but i dont know, im soo stuck on him. I wish i could just get over him, because i know i can do better..others know i can. But i cant.Im just asking,is there anyways to win back my boyfriend?to how we used to be?and.If what i want (to get things like before) how can i get over the past, and move on?and if not.how do u decide whats best for me to doanyone.please..and thank you.I'd really appreciate it.Best wishies*
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you soo much for answering the post.
i really appreciate it.
and i know i deserve much better. im just too stubborn to admit it. ive heard it plently of times..i was just soo caught up in the whole thing i lowered myself for him.
but thanks. for making me realize it and get my feet on the ground.
and i apperently have no problem finding a new bf. Hes the one missing out, and no ones gonna put up with the things i did.
thanks people. right now, i plan to move on, for bigger and better things. B/c he was a huge waste of time. Big i got one thing out of it. I learned a lesson.
But thanks.
God bless.
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (22 July 2008):
 Wait just a damn minute, I KNOW this boy did not tell YOU, the girl who loves him and gave him her virginity that SHE has to earn his love and trust back?
Are you effing kidding me, that should be HIM, he CHEATED ON YOU! Not the other way around!
This guy is a complete ass, why waste time with someone as rude and not to mention, arrogant as him?!
You're so young and you could do ten times better then this boy who's only hurting you.
The past happened to decide your future and if you keep this boy in your life, I assure you, you will be miserable with his behaviour, not to mention his immaturity.
Move on, sweetie, it's for the best.
Take Care
XO
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reader, Midge  +, writes (22 July 2008):
 I'm sorry.........he wants you to do what????? Is it just me or does this guy sound as if he's on crack??
Sorry sweetheart but he has some nerve telling you that YOU have to win his love back after everything that HE has done.
And you need to get a little more self respect and understand that this guy is no good for you! HE cheated on you, YOU didnt cheat on him!!! If anyone should be grovelling its him!!!!!!!!!!!!! HIM not YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am much older and a lot wiser and trust me, I used to be stuck on stupid! I was an idiot magnet. If there were a bunch of really nice guys and one absolute arse, guaranteed I used to pick the arse! You sweetheart have just picked yourself an arse!
You sa you are stuck on him, well I suggest you buy yourself some glue remover and get the hell away from him. IF he wants things to go back the way they were before, tell him to get off his arse and start grovelling! If he cant get over you cursing him out once, then he has a hell of a lot of growing up to do!
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reader, Replacement +, writes (22 July 2008):
 You cursed him out and he wants you to earn his love and trust back? What? I don't really understand, why did you curse him out? Anyway, if he's cheated on you, I can understand why you'd be angry enough to curse him out.
If you want it to get back like it was before YOU have to forgive HIM for his cheating behavior, and he has to get over himself and stop making you "earn his trust" back, since he's the one that damaged the relationship to begin with.
He sounds emotionally immature (and at your ages, that makes sense)and is using your "cursing him out" against you, and asking YOU to work hard to get HIS trust... I wouldn't even bother. He sounds like a baby, and you're young, so you can get out of it now with relatively little damage.
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reader, redsox07 +, writes (22 July 2008):
HE cheated on YOU and you have to win back his love and trust? why waste your time with someone disrespectful and rude, you're so young you will meet dozens of guys better than him as you get older. I don't see the problem here, move on.
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