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writes:one of my friends is a girl and really pretty, nice smart etc and most of the boys have crushes on her but becasue she so shy and wont stand up to the girls they treat her like rubbish and make her think shes not pretty and that shes stupid and stuff. There sort of emotionally bullying her and im not sure what to do because she seems to be the only person who dosent realise whta those girls are doing to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): OP- i think it may have got a lot worse, today she came into school to find all her "friends" weren't talking to her, and told her to find some new ones. she's quite shy, so this doesn't come easy to her
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (20 January 2011):
I usually don´t reply twice in a thread if there isn´t a follow up from the OP, but I had to put this in:
Do NOT tell a teacher. I've done that in the past and it made it so much worse because most teachers don't have a clue what to do against bullying. If he/she calls those who bully out on it, your friend will take the blame for that and her life will become even worse. Trust me, I've been there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): I got bullied badly in school It was horrible. tell somebody, an adult you can trust like a teacher and be there for her make sure she knows that she's worth it.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (19 January 2011):
Having been badly bullied in the past, I think I can give you some advice. On the one hand I think it's nice to stand up for her when you're with her, but at the same time you need to watch out for the knight-in-shining-armor effect, which like dirtball said will make it worse if for whatever reason you two don't end up in class together next year. Also, she needs to learn to stand up for herself. So talk to her about that. With you around, she might get more confident and solve the problem by herself eventually, but you need to give her the chance to do that. If you take it entirely upon yourself, she won't become a strong individual.
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reader, Nattaliee +, writes (19 January 2011):
 Tell Some Body. these girls have no right to treat your friend like this! reasure yuor friend that she is beautiful and there only jelous. tell her mom or dad. tell somebody. this cant go on forever. hope this helps
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reader, dirtball +, writes (19 January 2011):
 Just be supportive of her. Be there for her if she needs it. It sounds like you have a little thing for her, is that something you'd pursue? Maybe you should.
Bullies need to be stood up to, but it has to be the person being bullied to do the standing up. If someone comes in as a 'protector,' that often makes things worse when that protector is no longer around.
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