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writes:Might be some overthinking on my part, but do I have a right to be angry here? My gfs exams just finished so I thought, finally some time for the two of us, but as it turns out she made plans with a (male) friend of hers, whom I don't know. This isn't the first time she's done this, and what frustrates me she never mentions the name of her friends she just says 'I'm going to a friend' It's not that I don't trust her, but she doesn't exactly inspire trust by being so vague. I hate the fact that I'm always coming last. School + her friends get priority over me, feeling pretty sad and angry about it. But lack the nerve to express these feelings towards her. It's been 2 weeks since I've seen her. So next time I see her I don't want to start an arguement. Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (19 January 2011):
 You're right to feel upset. You should tell her that you feel like you're second fiddle to everything else in her life. That you want her to do well in school, and have friends, but you also want her to consider making you her first priority once in a while. It really isn't too much to ask, especially if you don't see each other regularly.
She will get defensive, but all this will do is distract you from what you're upset about. It's a way to keep from having to make any real choice. Be careful to not start apologizing for having feelings. It's not your fault you feel badly about the way she's treating you.
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