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writes:okay so I turn 18 in ONE month exactly, and I live in Texas. Well my mother knows this is the last month so she's doing everything possible to make it hell. She tells me even when im 18 Ill still do what she says and everything else and im not allowed to have a boyfriend and stuff like that, its like she doesnt know how to stop controlling me. And its not like I cn talk to her cause she's the kind to just hit you and stuff like that, we were all in an arguement 2 nights ago and well she got all mad and wanted to say a bunch of stuff but when I put my honest input in and she didnt like ti she threw her full can of pepsi at me, then she ran at me and grabbed my hair and yanked me to the ground and started hitting me.she almost rammed my face into the corner of our shelf, the only reason she didnt is cause I pushed back on it. Im just a little over 4'11, very small, and she's well, NOT.So what I was wondering is is there any way I can leave now at this point in time without getting into trouble? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): you cant leave till your 18 sorry... just try to wait till you are then you are free from your mom for good
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlol old enough to be divorced twice, he isnt that old. Were a few years apart, but is that uncommon anymore? its not like he's in his laste 20's or something like hat. He's just well off, he uses his head unlike most people his age.
And this isnt even over him completely, lets just say my mom has "issues", when she doesnt get what she wants/needs she makes everyone around her pay, and her husband [the father of my brothers and sisters] is the same way. Now see I was at my step sisters house when her dad called the cops on her for trying to leave the property at 17 when he said ot too, he said that unless the kid says "Im not coming back" & packs their bags, the cops cant do anything about it. They cant force them to stay home or anything like that
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (19 September 2009):
Find someone to take you in and live with them... you have to make it 4 short weeks... I can't belive that any state agency is going to return a phone call that fast, much less get off their butt and do anything.
Kids move in with freinds parents all the time to get out of bad situations... just don't do anything stupid (like move in someplace that you'll be in jepordy)...
Cut your ties, and let her steep in her own stuff...
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reader, mediocreland +, writes (19 September 2009):
Like previous posters said, it would be easier to just wait out the month. I think you should use the time you have left to get a job (if you dont already have one) or something you can support yourself with. Keep yourself busy making solid plans for apartments or roomates or whatever you plan on doing so it's all there once you turn 18 and all you have to do is gather your stuff and move out.Like someone else said, if she pays any of your bills, or if you have any shared accounts, get papers to have them transfered over in your name once you turn 18. Cut all contact of anything she has in her name that's yours, and you should be fine.
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reader, Confuzzled012 +, writes (18 September 2009):
 I really think your mom, and most any mom would hate their seventeen-year old kid going out with a man who is old enough to be divorced twice and have his own house. That's a very large age gap. But no excuse for your mother's behavior. But I really think you can be ok for another month.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (18 September 2009):
I think that technically, yes she can have the cops bring you back home if you "run away." A month goes by quickly, just take it day-by-day and try not to talk to your mother about those issues to avoid any other arguments. Then when you're 18, you're free to go as you please. However, if you're still under her roof, it's still going to be under her rules--if they're rules you can't abide by, then it's best to find somewhere else to live. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo its not all over a boy, iy goes way deeper but hey im not trying to get anyone in trouble. The boy was just an example, and as a matter off act, he has a job and his own house, and he pays for everything himself, no kids, nothing like that. He's a good guy. It seems my mom is the one who does the childish things and not me, I always have to lie for her to someoen else because she always has some sort of lie going on and doesnt want to get caught :/
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reader, Confuzzled012 +, writes (18 September 2009):
Gawd i'm sorry. I didn't think clearly. I knew you weren't eighteen yet but I answered as if you are. Where I live, a seventeen year old can move out and her parents can't bring her home with the police. She can legally move out. You have to check the laws of your state.
If not though, it's only a month. Just try to stay busy with shchool and work (if you do work) and friends. You're upset right now and I guess that's why you went desperately searching for someone to vent to. But one month is not too bad. You'll be ok.
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reader, Confuzzled012 +, writes (18 September 2009):
Your mom can't get you in trouble for leaving. You're a legal adult so it's not as if she can call the cops. You can stay with a friend or another family member if you are close to any.
She can stop you though, if she owns your car, pays your phone bill, is paying for college, etc. She could sort of use it like blackmail. So as long as you can be stable on your own then you can get out. If you don't have a job, then it will be difficult for you.
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