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writes: I am getting married in August to a man I love very much and we are in a very happy relationship. However I met a man through work, and we made a heart stopping connection. There is a chemistry between us and I can't stop thinking about him.I recently left the workplace where I met him, and since this has happened we have been emailing each other. He is single and 15 years older than me. I don't know whether to have a night of passion with him or walk away. Help.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2007): Tell you bf what you have thought. Maybe he too wants one last fling. My wife and I said for the last 3 months before we got married we could see whoever we wanted until the rings were on our fingers. It actually brought us closer. we both realized what we had for each other. I had my last fling (that she knows about)the night before the wedding with one of her bridemaids. and she had hers the day of the wedding with a guy she went to college with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2006): NO!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you really love you fiance, your relationship, and your self, then you would not do anything to damage your relationship. That's just that!!!!!!!!!! Now you are a adult, and free to make your own decisions. But if your fiance was doing this. How would you feel?????????
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reader, becky05 +, writes (1 July 2005):
If you are considering having a night of passion with another man before you get married then you dont love your boyfriend enough to marry him. You have to walk away from either one or the other.
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (20 June 2005):
There's a HUGE difference between Love & Lust.If the guy you just met is INCREDIBLE...what does that make your fiancee?Is he...wonderful...great...nice...boring...lower on the scale?You mention the word ALTAR...a holy place where you take vows of faithfulness...to love, honour & cherish.If those vows are not already carved into your heart...then making a public confirmation of your commitment to your fiancee MEANS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.Give your head a shake girl.Seeking permission or advice from online folks is fruitless.You know the difference between right & wrong.What if your fiancee met an INCREDIBLE woman & wanted to have a fling "on his way down the altar?"You'd be spitting nails & would dump his ass.This INCREDIBLE man you met surely knows you are getting married but he has no respect for you or your fiancee.All he wants to do is "get his rocks off" with the bride to be.If you happen to go through with your marriage, I pity your poor husband...you're an Affair waiting to happen !
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2005): I don't think you love your fiancee that much. Most women who are captured in everlasting love usually do not have an eye on the side for a handsome, muscular, tanned, armani-styled model of a man. Those "captured" women know true love alone is a huge turn-on. They are in a mental/emotional state when it comes to love. That's is the way nature made us women.So let me explain, if you think for one second that you are in love with your fiancee you are lying to your fiancee, your family and friends, and most of all to yourself. If you get married now, you will only trap yourself into an arrangement in which you are settling for. Why would you do that to yourself and your fiancee? In time, you will definitely fade out of the marriage and unfairly hold him responsible for your unhappiness. I strongly urge you to take a deeper look into yourself and be honest with yourself. YOU are the only one who will make you happy. You asked me for help? I believe you should call off the wedding, break up with your fiancee, and ask that co-worker guy for a date.
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reader, clare_bear +, writes (3 June 2005):
AHHHHHH!!!! DON'T DO IT!!!! If you love your future husband don't do it out of respect for him. Start as you mean to go on and be faithful. If you can't then don't get married. You will only live to regret it later either way. If you sleep with this person you will feel guilty when you get married and if you get married when you can't be faithful to your husband then you will regret ever marrying him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2005): Don't go for it! I've been through the same thing 4 months ago...and till now I haven't come back to normal. Believe me I had to postpone the wedding because of what I've done. My bf doesn't know and its likely that he wouldn't know but deep inside me I feel I cheated on myself and him. Please don't do it.....it will take you time till you get over it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2005): i would say work out your feelings for the person you are getting wed to. I think that at the end of the day if you were to have a night of passion you may end up having more feeling for him and ending up worse off then you are right now. So decide how you feel for your fiance first. And whatever you decide make sure you fiance knows. Because if you keep it to yourself it will only eat you up !!
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reader, Cutie_Mish +, writes (3 June 2005):
Ah, I think its best you don't do anything but stay friends, try to resist your temptations for if you give in, you might lose everything! And I'm sure you wouldn't like to lose what you've got, for it's hard to find a loving relationship, I should know haha! Hope you can see that a fling isn't worth losing a long loving relationship. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2005): I really don't think you should. Your actions through a relationship and on your way to the altar show how you will do in a marriage. If you really love your man, think about what will happen if you have a last fling with the other one...and if your husband-to-be finds out.
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