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writes: I was with my boyfriend for a total of 2 and a half years, on and off. He broke it off each time saying he wasn't ready for a relationship, that we were too different and that we seemed more like best friends!Is it me? I can't help but feel like a pushed him away. I'm struggling to get over him as he's quite close to the family and he's always there. I miss him terribly and am scared I'm never going to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): There is definitely nothing wrong with you. I am currently on the other side of what your going through with my boyfriend. We had been dating for almost 2 years and I realised some time ago that I had fallen out of love with him and we had become just friends. I finally got the courage to tell him and now he is devastated just as you are. Coming from the other side of the equation I can tell you that you are not to blame and that there is nothing wrong with you as a person. Ive learnt falling out of love is the hardest reason for breaking up because you feel so guilty and wish that there was a reason for your feelings changing. I know your upset but its probably for the best. You cant be in a onesided relationship - thats not fair on either of you. Just know that there is nothing wrong with you and you are not to blame!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2005): NO, it is not you! It's him! He broke it off each time! He already told you he's not ready for a relationship. So just let him be. Why would you want someone who does not want you? He said he was your friend, maybe he keeps going back to you because you will not drop the issue. So he feels GUILTY that you're hurting and reluctantly goes back to you. Or even worse, he's taking advantage of the free sex you're giving. Either way, it's not good for you. Yes, right now you feel sad, but it takes time! Get your mind off him by taking up a new hobby or hanging out with friends, after all they're your best support. Caution: avoid mutual friends. You will make it, hang in there!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2005): You will move on, it will just take time!
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