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anonymous
writes:My husband accuses me of cheating all the time. His reason is one day we will have sex and my vagina is tight and the next time he says its loose. He tells me a man can tell when another guy has been in his "stuff". I'm NOT cheating on him. Can anybody tell my why your vagina feels different from one day to the next?
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (16 September 2010):
 I think the better question is why can't I stand up to my abusive husband who is belittling my vagina and accusing me of cheating.
Walk out and stand your ground and tell him to get some help for his controlling ways.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 September 2010):
 He's got to be crazy!
No he can not TELL if someone has been in your vagina. What absolute crazy-talk.
That is just to paranoid and controlling.. and well, crazy.
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reader, Odds +, writes (16 September 2010):
 You can learn to tighten your Kegel muscles. Next time you pee, stop partway through. That's the Kegel muscle you're squeezing. It also tightens you up a lot - with practice, you can develop that muscle enough to squeeze tightly for the duration of intercourse, making it seem like new every time.
Besides feeling great for both of you, it will also feel more consistenyl tight, and maybe shut him up.
I suspect he is only testing you (clumsily and rudely), or he would have long since dumped you. It's no fun to put up with, but jealousy and suspicion are natural (if harmful) and can be dealt with.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (16 September 2010):
 http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-does-it-feel-different-every-time.html
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reader, dirtball +, writes (16 September 2010):
 So your vagina is "his stuff" huh? Very possessive and insecure in my book.
There are many reasons why it may feel different. Maybe you're more into it and the muscles in there are doing more one day. Maybe you're a bit wetter one day and he feels less resistance. Maybe he's having sex with you more often and it has less time to recouperate after the last session.
Your husband needs to work on his trust issues. That or buy you a freakin' chastity belt.
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (16 September 2010):
 Your husband has a lot to learn about the vulva then. He is delusional and paranoid.
A man cant tell if their partner has been cheating by the feel of the vagina alone thats rubbish.
The vagina is controlled by muscles it can vary from second to second never mind day by day. It can stretch both horizontal and vertical during arousal.
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reader, stephi23 +, writes (16 September 2010):
to be honest you are better looking it up on the internet hunni. its rubbish a man can tell when uv been cheating hes having u on hun xx
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