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writes:Hey Aunts/unclesI have a question. I recently met this guy who i fell for instantly. Trouble is, him being 3 years older he was due to go to uni a week later. He said he wud persue a long distance relationship with me. Im more than happy to do that because he will come n visit occasionally and we speak every night via video calling on msn. Trouble is we wudnt be able to have a proper relationship for another 3 years when hes back from uni. Alot can change in 3 years (i would of been to college, finished A-levels and started Uni). Hes like my soulmate and we want the same things in the future, we are freakily alike and can talk for hours (one time we were video calling for 10 hours with no breaks) basically my question is could this relationship work?? Seeing each other 10 weeks is fair enough but with me going to college in a few months, id be meeting loads of new people and theres no garentee my feelings will still be the same in 3 years time when hes home for good and vice versa. I can see it working but at times i think im just kidding myself. The thought of not being able to persue a proper relationship with him kills me inside. Help!!Thanks alot.
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reader, loriegirl  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Hi, I would definitely say yes! They do work out, I tell you from experience!!! My boyfriend lives 4 hours from me and we used to see each other every weekend before, now its only every two weeks, because of inconveniences we have had lately, but We usually spend the whole weekend at each others house. We take turns on going back and forth. Of course it will only work out if you put all of your interest and effort into it. We both are very commited to each other and are looking for a serious relationship. Of course theres alot of different people we could see instead, but we choose not to because, we both have found qualities in eachother that other people dont seem to have. I have never met anyone like him before and he says the same thing. I think we have something very special here. I really recommend that if you are not willing to dedicate your time and effort into it, dont even waste your time. It all depends on your feelings for eachother and commitment......
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (22 October 2007):
 It all depends upon how committed you are to one another. Is love in the equation? How decicated are you now to this person? How dedicated is he to you?
I once lived about two hours away from my b/f. I only saw him on Sunday's a few times a month. I liked him alot. As time went on it we grew closer. I had many guys who liked me in my school but my heart was set on him. I had crushes but he was the one I really wanted. Eventually my Dad moved back to my hometown, where he was from. We began dating slowly at first and we fell in love. By now we had already known one another for over nearly over 2 years. After about 6 1/2 months later we became engaged and married the following month. Yes that would be close to a 3 year period. I was only 3 months shy of 16 and he had just turned 18 the day he proposed to me. I was committed to our relationship and very dedicated to him. I devoted my life to my marriage and to the love I had found. If you choose to try this you must be strong enough to carry it through if you want it to work. If you sre uncertain then step back and rethink your position. Be fair and honest you will be respected for it. Best of luck and Godspeed.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (22 October 2007):
It all depends upon how committed you are to one another. Is love in the equation? How decicated are you now to this person? How dedicated is he to you?
I once lived about two hours away from my b/f. I only saw him on Sunday's a few times a month. I liked him alot. As time went on it we grew closer. I had many guys who liked me in my school but my heart was set on him. I had crushes but he was the one I really wanted. Eventually my Dad moved back to my hometown, where he was from. We began dating slowly at first and we fell in love. By now we had already known one another for over nearly over 2 years. After about 6 1/2 months later we became engaged and married the following month. Yes that would be close to a 3 year period. I was only 3 months shy of 16 and he had just turned 18 the day he proposed to me. I was committed to our relationship and very dedicated to him. I devoted my life to my marriage and to the love I had found. If you choose to try this you must be strong enough to carry it through if you want it to work. If you sre uncertain then step back and rethink your position. Be fair and honest you will be respected for it. Best of luck and Godspeed.
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reader, Its_X_ +, writes (20 October 2007):
 Long distance relationships can work when you put effort into them. I wrote an article about them yesterday. They only really work if you put dedication into them. My boyfriend lives across the country from me. It sounds like you have a very strong relationship with your guy. I highly doubt he would cheat on you with how much he puts into the relationship. It seems like he's a wonderful guy and that he loves you very much. Keep up the relationship, its going to be worth it. Good luck.
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