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*oftballgirl334
writes:I feel really fat and like no one wants to go out with me. I weigh 150 but I am 5'8" and all of my friends say I am not fat and it's just muscle. I play a lot of sports but I still feel like I am fat and ugly. i have a lot of guy friends but I want to go out. i see a lot of guys checking my out but never say anuthing. Am I fat? Is that why they do not go out with me?
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reader, softballgirl334 +, writes (13 July 2009):
softballgirl334 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for all the help! It has helped me a lot!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): you aren't fat. i'm 5'8 also and i weigh an average of 150-154. and i'm your age, 14 and about to start high school. i'm constantly having people tell me i'm skinny and such. and i play sports like you do too. just keep playing sports and you won't have to worry about a thing. as far as the guys, the guys your age are chicken. make a move and start talking to one of those ones who check you out. nothing serious, just a hey whats up. then maybe it'll escalate from there. don't worry about a thing.(:
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (12 July 2009):
 Could it be because you are fairly tall? If you were heels aren't you taller then a lot of guys? That might intimidate them.
It don't sound like your fat but you might not be skinny either. If you excersise you are bound to have muscles and probably not those skeleton arms supermodels have.
Most likely the boys are just shy. If you were unattractive, they wouldn't check you out.
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reader, babymama99 +, writes (12 July 2009):
 First of all you are not fat. I looked up the chart for your height and you should be between 136-150 pounds. for a larger frame person it can go up to 167 pounds. so I would say you are just fine.
I am also 5'8" and I reached my full height right before I started the nighth grade, around your age. so I understand what you're going through. My hang up was my height - I remember I was taller than most of the guys. but that changed very quickly. I stopped growing and they kept going.
Most guys this age just flat out don't have the chops to just walk up to a girl and ask her out. they may feel intimidated or shy, maybe afraid of rejection. please don't take this to mean that there is something wrong with you because there is nothing wrong with you.
Trust me, in no time you will be back on Dear Cupid with another problem but this time you'll be saying - I have 3 boys wanting to go out with me and I can't choose which one.
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (12 July 2009):
ok well I can say if we are going by numbers 150 and 5'8" is not fat at all. Don't let the guys get to you hun. Guys are immature and like to look and play games. I know it is hard to do this sometimes but I can tell you honestly that the best thing you can do is work on and build your own character. Don't ever define yourself by the opposite sex. I hope that doesn't sound like the advise you get from your grandpa or your mother but I do believe it to be the best advise. As a guy I have struggled to attract the opposite sex but at 31 years now I know the value of character and integrity. I know who I am now and what my strengths are and my weaknesses. Be picky. It doesn't matter who you are or what you look like. Be choosey in who you associate with and who you want to date or be romantic with.
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