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writes:This guy has been my friend for a year and we havn't been as close anymore which I respect. I havn't seen him in two weeks or more because of summer! I thought me and him were friends, I accepted the fact that were going to be nothing more than that! But when I try to ask him how his vacation is he doesn't respond! Its like he knows that I'm trying to talk to him and hes ignoring it! What should I do? When hes online he says to text him (on his status) but when I text him he doesn't reply! I don't know whats wrong with him. i've been keeping my distantce from him because I guessed he doesn't want to talk to me and I know that maybe he can be busy because I'm busy. I just don't know why he would kick me out of his life like that. When I see him in school I bet he will talk to me but he doesn't talk to me on vacations. He used to be there for me and talk to me all the time. We used to joke around and hang out. I know that things have changed but why should I give his friendship up? I really like his company.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): It could be that he wants to keep your friendship at school only, but doesn't want contact outside of school.
I used to have friends at school who I got on well with and would hang out with. But during holidays, we didn't see each other outside of school. We just picked up where we left off back at school.
Maybe that is what he is doing. I think we all have different people in our lives, from the different areas. For example, if you work, you will probably make friends in the workplace. But you won't necessarily hang out with them outside of work. Does that make sense?
If you would like more than just a school friendship though, then when you next see him you could try telling him. Or maybe suggest that you do something together, go somewhere.
But he might not want to make more of the friendship than what it already is. If that is the case, I think it would be best to just enjoy the friendship you do have, but spend more time with other friends, until it gets a bit easier to deal with. Hope things work out okay. x
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (12 July 2009):
 Unfortnately, we are not accountable for other people's actions and if this guy has chosen not to maintain the friendship then there is nothing you can do to keep it going. I'm so sorry.
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