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writes: well me and my boyfriend had sex and his mum keeps makin hints as if she nos like the other day she was in the car with my boyfriend and she asked him if i was on the pill and if we were virgins we havnt told our parents and are scared to abit cos were not 16 yet. what should we do shoudl we tell them? thanx x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe didnt have sex bcus i wnated t feel loved and happy we had sex bcus we love eachuva and have been together for some time now we were just tryin it out to see wat it was like x zoe
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reader, Tine  +, writes (22 August 2006):
 well it sounds as though your boyfriends mum genuinely cares and i think that you might as well tell her to confirm her suspicions. If your boyfriend is straight with her from the beginning then he will be able to build more of a trust with his mum, however i suggest that if you arent 16 yet and are having sex then you should go on the pill just to be safe
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reader, sugersweet02 +, writes (22 August 2006):
 parents understand when your taking the pill and using a comdom otherwise they tend to go ballistic. maybe wait untill your 16 and both tell parents together and dont forget the pill and condom part and youll do just fine, they cant say anything to you really because theve had sex and its nature in life take care xox
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2006): It sounds like Mum is trying to remind you both that you may be too young for sex and if you are active then use birth control as well as condoms.
She sounds like a worried Mum that has both you and his best of intrests in mind.
I say go to a clinic and get the birth control and make sure you are using condoms.
Do talk to the parents as they should be talking to you and helping you...they need to be supportive as if they were, you wouldn't feel the need to turn to sex to feel happy, loved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2006): His mum isn't an idiot - she's been your age before, so she probably knows exactly what's going on.
If you are mature enough to have sex, you are mature enough to tell your parents. They are only worried, after all.
If you are taking proper precautions, such as being on the pill, and using condoms, then they will probably be ok about it - coz they haven't stopped you now, have they?
Just remember, however they act, it is because they are worried and want to make sure you are both OK.
Your parents are worried you will end up getting pregnant and his parents are worried that he'll have to be a dad.
Confide in your parents, as I said, they have been there before, and as long as you are honest and mature with them, they should be back. And, if they say something you disagree with, give it some thought before you argue with them. After all, they DO know what is best for you both.
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