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writes:Hi this is kind of an embaressing subject and I wasnt sure where else to turn... it's less about the relationship and more about my boyfriend's hygiene... basically I always put off giving him more than a hand job because he always has a slight bit of smegma build up (not much) as he showers in the evenings rather than the mornings (so it has 24 hours to build up instead of 12 hours if he showered in the morning) ... i love him to pieces but... yeh...What should I do? I mean i dont want to embaress him by telling him to go and wash it and I cant just tell him to change when he showers... It may sound stupid but the only solution I can think of is to keep a pack of babywipes by the bed and tell him something like I prefer everything to be definately clean before doing anything?Does that sound completely stupid? The only other thing i could think of is have a shower together before hand? Although this is a bit impractical as I live with my parents (I am still in high school).Any suggestions are welcome. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhaha just re-read this we are all nice and clean now! XD thanks guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokay thanks guys you've been really helpful :) i will try and talk to him about it soon... im just scared that he will take it personally... he's the nicest guy in the world (and rather cute too haha) and i dont wanna upset him... @alex74 i dont think age really needed to be mentioned at all... we are both above the legal age and are only 11 months apart so there is nothing wrong... im not rushing him into anything and he's not rushing me into anything :) but thanks for your concern
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (29 May 2011):
 I think he'd appreciate a sponge bath in bed.
Towel, cloth and big bowl of water with a tad soap.
Do his whole body and he'll love it. Also ask him to give you one to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2011): You do need to talk to him about it... Otherwise it leaves room for him to take it personally... such as you not being attracted or not interested in him. Etc etc. Because he won't really know until you tell him why you don't want to do anything.
This happens to lots of girls, just be honest but kind, and tell him you'd prefer for him to shower recently before you do anything sexual. It's not being mean, it's just telling him your preferences, which is fine right?
Alex74... it doesn't really matter on her age, I'm sure she is responsible and it's actually not that young regarding most of the Dearcupid people.
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (29 May 2011):
 Well you need to tell him. If he asks you to give him a blowjob or something along those lines, you tell him that it has to be clean. Keeping a pack of baby wipes on hand is convenient. You have to be able to talk to him about this though. Communication is important.
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reader, kylieekristina  +, writes (29 May 2011):
 Ok I had to look up what that meant exactly lol. Is he circumsized? If he is not he really shouldn't be having that problem, if he is cleaning on a regular basis, and doesn't have any problems down there. if he is not circumsized he needs to wash with warm water only rather than soap, according to some info i got off the net. Hope that helps
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reader, alex74 +, writes (29 May 2011):
 I'm not going to mention your age in my response. You don't have to bring up his hygeine at all. My wife will not even go down there unless I have recently showered. In fact, if I showered an hour ago, but have peed since the shower.....not happening. I'm circumcised so I never even have smegma. Just blame the pee! Practice safe sex if you must engage in it so young. Okay, sorry..... I brought up the age anyway.
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