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writes:I receently had a tip off that my boyfriend has a profile on a dating site. The profile had pictures on it taken a few months ago and we've been together for nearly a year. I pretended to be someone else and got in contact. He replied and agreeed to meet up sometime. I confronted him and he said he was so sorry and that it was only for a laugh. He says he's very happy in our relationship and would never have met up with 'me'. He deleted his profile immediately and said he really wanted us to work through it. Advice is very much needed!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2011): I totaly agree with anon you can make it work everybody makes mistakes,to many people to quick to end a relationship that to me is not love either
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2011): A guy with an ego, online to have it boosted and online for illicit sex too no doubt, how women many has he met already I wonder?Dump him for your own sake - he's probably using a few sites - plus he's blatantly lied to you. xx
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 April 2011):
 LIAR! will you ever trust him again?NO?time to leave.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 April 2011):
The moment you have to fake a profile to find out the truth, you know it's the end of that relationship. Dump this one and move on.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (21 April 2011):
Look at it this way. If you had showed him this evidence, and he was remorseful, and sat down and told you what was lacking in your relationship, maybe you would have something to work on. You could have perhaps figured something out. But as he has blatantly kept up a lie to you, I don't see any other option but to DUMP HIM. He obviously isn't in the right place in his life where he wants to be faithful to you. End it, it'll only end badly. You deserve BETTER.
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reader, gaydating +, writes (21 April 2011):
Move on, he doesnt deserve you. This kinda happened to me with a guy that I was going on dates with. We werent like officially going out, but sometime we acted like if we were going out. Anyway, I found he was on a dating site too, and I contacted him. he told me that he just had a file just to check if his ex was there. Then he stopped using that account, and he created another profile, I sent him a message in that profile but he didnt replied, BUt I know 100% it was him ( a long story on how I found that out). anyway, my point is that he may have deleted that profile, but he may have created another one. So, please dont waste your time with this jerk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2011): Make no mistake you know exactly what he was doing and why he was doing it. He was looking to cheat and actively trying to get with another girl. Do you think deleting his profile is going to stop him doing that again, online or in real life? No, you caught him, now you know for certain you can't trust him. How many other girls has he tried this with while you have been together? You'll never know and you can't trust him to tell the truth either.
He obviously doesn't like you enough not to want to find another girl, no matter what he says because you've seen proof that he doesn't and there is no possible way for him to prove otherwise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2011): This one is tricky. My first thoughts would be to get rid. However, if you love him then its not so easy. I caught my boyfriend sending sexy texts to a co-worker after we'd been together a year. It took me a long time to trust him again (and I checked his phone loads), and to be honest I still keep a very close eye on him, but we've been together 5 years now and we're very happy (he kept his promise and hasn't done anything since then). Good luck
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 April 2011):
 He's full of crap and you know it. Only for a laugh my ass!
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (21 April 2011):
 Yeah, I have to agree with the first post.
You caught this guy red handed. Can you trust him ever again? I wouldn't be able to.
I think you are fully justified to end the relationship.
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