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writes:well to start of my boyfriend over the summer was in basic training and then work training. we wrote to each other everyday..and i trusted him with all my heart till this, i was in his laptop and i was looking thru is mobile uploads to find he had a picture of some girls boobs...i aked him what the hell was this..and he said the girl has sent it to him randomly and i asked him why did u saved it and put it on ur laptop..and he was like i dont know..im not stupid..u must had been talkin to her..so she can you a picture of her boobs..and then he told me that he asked for it..i started to cry so much and packed my stuff to leave and i told him we were done and he started balling and wouldnt let me go..so i ended up stayin for the weekend and we kept talking about it..and he kept saying sorry and sorry..and he was crying..but i wasnt this time..ugh i just dont know what to do....
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reader, missSamanthamary  +, writes (10 January 2010):
my boyfriend did pretty much the same , if u stay with him your not gonna be all that happy i can tell you that much you will hold it agenst him as much as u try not to and you'll start fighting alot and you;ll get mad at him over stupid things, thats what happend to me and my boyfriend , we are currently on a break AGAIN and its all because he keeps fucking up , as much as you wont want to move on its proabably ur best choice cause i can garuntee he'll do it again , but if you cant let go which seems to be my problem then just be prepareed to get hurt , and dont try to find anything else becasue i can almost garuntee you will :( im sorry hope it goes better for you then it has for me good luck :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): if he is going to do it once he will aging. i know thats not what you want to hear. but he will ask for her boobs the lower, the to come over and top it off. its not worth it. if i was you its would be time to move on. i may be 100% wrong but if he will lie to you about asking, then hes going to keep lying. theres no point in staying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno he didnt kiss or anything he just asked her for a picture of her boobs and she sented to him! :((
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (5 January 2010):
 Sorry but still confused, can't always get all the text speak as old hat I guess when it comes to writing things down.
Did your bf sleep with someone or just kiss them?
If the other time was just a kiss and it was a long time OK, then talk to him about it but don't keep on holding it against him, you have been fine with him since the one you know about and so it sounds to me like he has been behaving himself.
If you don't trust him at all, then you need to address your trust issues and decide whether you actually want to be with him or not.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso i talkd to da girl and she told me a semi story alike but she was blaming most on her because is not her first time she did dat.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (4 January 2010):
You are still very young exactly as CaringGuy says so don't put all your faith in one guy OK.
What I would say though is it is natural for guys to look at women as women look at men. Pornography or what used to be girlie magazines on the shelf were commonly used by men of all ages, young and old to use for masturbation purposes and maybe this is something he used for that purpose.
The thing is whether he knows the girl or not in person. That is the real question here and whether he was around to take the picture of the girl or whether he asked her to send him one.
That is really what you need to find out.
You cannot go through life though thinking that all guys will not look at other women as a lot do and some hide it very well whereas some don't at all.
Women also have a need to masturbate at times as well and have all different ways to do this so I think you need to consider this as well.
As you get older you either learn to live with it or not as the case may be and that is something you will discover as you go through life.
Whether you actually believe what your bf is telling you or not is another matter altogether.
What I am curious about though is whether you went looking to find something to see if he was telling you the truth while you were apart or whether you were actually suspicious that something may have happened during this time?
I just wonder if your internal radar is actually honed in on something that you suspected was up, either by the way he acted or sounded during that time.
Just something to consider that's all. Our gut instincts are not normally totally off wack.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (4 January 2010):
Only you know if you want to stay with him or not but he has obviously been talking to her enless he just found the picture on the internet.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 January 2010):
You're still young, maybe you should just start over. Why put up with second best when there's another out there. You're right, for him to have the photo, he had to ask her to send it.
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