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writes:The other week I kissed one of my boyfriends best friends and now I dont know what to do.My boyfriend and I have been arguing a lot and the majority of the time when we argue he gets abusive and hits me.His friend walked in on this happening about a month ago now and basically all his friends know whats going on and how unhappy I feel. But they all say to me "you could do better ... but it's not my place to say" Thing is though I really wish someone would just tell him what he is doing is wrong.My own friends, who are his friends aswell are staying out of it and if anything are trying to back away from me I think. If i text them, I get one word replies back if any at all.The only person that I thought I could talk to was his mate that walked in, and to be honest I told him everything one night when we were drunk. He sat and listened and told me about his love life etc and we generally just had a good chat.. Until he said "sometimes I just want to kiss you.." thinking back though he was probably just being nice to get something..Anyhow.. we kissed and went to bed together but we never done anything really as my boyfriend was in the next room, albeit passed out from the drink on the couch. The next day my boyfriend was going crazy because of me and his friend were talking, so he still doesn't know that we kissed but if he was going that crazy over talking there was no way I was going to tell him. I keep trying to keep it quiet but more and more people keep finding out and one of his other friends even said we kissed aswell which is a total lie!! I'm scared incase my boyfirend finds out as it was a stupid mistake but I'm even more scared of what he might end up doing..Any advice appreciated!! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2008): Er - dump your boyfriend NOW!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (2 October 2008):
 I agree with Annalisa -- why are you waiting for other people to talk to him about his behavior? Call the cops! Leave him! You know what he's doing is completely wrong, and if you're kissing other guys, it just prove that you're already disconnected from this relationship. Kissing another guy was no good, but just proves that you're already moving on.
Break up with this boyfriend! You know he's not treating you right, and you know that the situation can only go downhill - your friends speaking to him might be a bandaid for a little while, but he won't change.
Go to the cops, ditch the guys, get better friends and have a much, much better life because of it!
Good luck!
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reader, unknownlady +, writes (2 October 2008):
 ive read the first two sentences...
and just to say one... u shoudlnt have kissed his friend
and two get rid no matter what u have done he should be abusive to you at all!
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