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writes:my boyfriend drinks every day first thing he does is has a beer when he wakes up....just there this evening he vomited for no reason he says it his nose being blocked up making him sick which i don't believe...i have a 2 year old son who dotes on him so i can't break that bond between them..i don't know what to do anymore..am at a total loss.. am i being silly? plus he doesn't eat anything ever... Reply to this Question
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reader, heartbreaks  +, writes (8 September 2010):
tell him that you love hhim drinking beer is not the right thing to do.with a kid in the house if one day u come home and he drunk than he ever has been and he his drunk and he hits u in front of ur kid hes not the one for u
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 September 2010):
Yes you can break that bond. And you must. After all, if you don't, next thing is your own son will be an alcoholic too.
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reader, Counselorgirl  +, writes (7 September 2010):
Dear Anonymous,
GET OUT OF THERE!
I have worked with AlAnon, Alateen and have attended some AA meetings. I know what you are going through. Apart from the fear of confronting him, there's a fear for abandonment and guilt. Trust me, once you get over those, you will realize, you can smile everyday, you can go to bed relaxed, you can go anywhere and not worry about the drunk guy you need to look up for.
It takes a lot of courage, not every woman can go through that. But I will tell you one thing fo sure: YOU ARE HURTING YOUR SON MORE THAN YOU CAN IMAGINE!
So GET OUT! He is not going to change.. well maybe he will, for the worse!
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reader, kahlan +, writes (7 September 2010):
 Your boyfriend has a problem. You say you don't want to break the bond between him and your son-but you need to put your son 1st. Your boyfriend isn't the best role model for him. If you really want to try and make a go of things, get him to admit he has a problem. Of course it's the drink making him sick.
I love my Granda,and so does my mum and my Grandma. But he drank for years and both of them say they can never forget what it was like living with someone who drank. Granda was never a nasty drunk, but he embarressed his family all the time. Mum says she hated her childhood and my Grandma could never rely on him. Mum is tea total but both her siblings drink. Your son could grow up feeling the same way.
Granda is now is hospital. He hasn't long to live as he has a disease caused by drinking.
If your boyfriend wont admit he has a problem and seek help-and he has to do it himself, which he wont if he,s not ready-you cant do this for him, then you have some serious thinking to do.
I really hope everything sorts itself out. I'll be thinking of you.
Kahlan.XXX.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (7 September 2010):
 Well your first priority IS your 2 year old son. If he really likes this guy and all he sees is him drinking, is that a good influence? Clearly he has a problem and he needs help. Have you tried talking to him about it? Does he get angry when you bring it up?
How long has this been going on?
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reader, sarahrose20  +, writes (7 September 2010):
no its not a good relationship and i know your worried about breaking the bond between your son but this is a bond that has to be broken unless you want your son to think being an alcholic is okay hes still young enough that he wont remember who your boyfriend is within a few months
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