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writes:I've been with a girl 5 months and I'm beginning to get bored. We slept together after a week, have been on holiday together, and have also been on family meals with each others families. Our sex life is really good, but everything else is boring. My past girlfriend and I used to go out at least twice a month, often more, but my current girlfriend and I never go out. I have no motivation to spend money or make things more interesting for us, which I take as a bad sign. If I really liked her I would want to spend more time taking her out etc. I would feel really bad breaking up with her for the pure fact that I'm bored, and don't like her as much as she likes me, yet I feel guilty for still being with her even though I don't feel very much for her. She would be devastated if we broke up, she is very clingy and really likes me, even says she loves me. What should I do?! Feel free to ask any questions, I haven't written very much here. Thanks!
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reader, Tenacious  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 Yes, the other aunts are right. Bored is not a word I would use to describe my relationship. (married almost 30 years) I've been furious, madly in love, in pain, calm, broke, he held my hand thru childbirth, thru the death of 3 of our parents, there's been enough passion to ignite a truck load of dyn-o-mite. We've laughed and cried, danced, giggled, screamed, ranted and raved. We've traveled,stayed in suites, camped, and both spent time in the hospital. But we've NEVER NEVER NEVER been bored! And I wouldn't trade it for a million dollars.
If you are bored after 5 months please do as Eyeswideopen says and rip the band-aid off. Let her go gently and kindly, but do it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): you guys should split. don't tell her your bored, just tell her you don't like her as much as she likes you. please don't carry on with a practically one-sided relationship and having her think that you both feel the same way. hopefully she can understand that it's for the best.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 I've been with my husband for 38 years, an I'm rarely bored. You are very young, too young to settle for something that you don't want, you have all the time in the world ahead of you. Even though it's not easy to break it off with someone who cares for you, Take eyes and the other aunties advice and pull the bandaid off quickly, let her get on with her life too. You've got to be cruel to be kind...
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 September 2010):
 Just tell her she deserves better and then leave her to get over you. She will be fine. Clean and quick like removing a bandaid, that's the kindest way.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (28 September 2010):
 move on- its what is best for both of you, if someone bores you then they are not suited to you. its only been five months and you have no feelings for her...
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reader, petina1 +, writes (28 September 2010):
 Best to let her know now and let her get over it, rather than drag it out and end up hating each other later. Just be honest with her. No one wants to stay where they arent wanted, these things happen in life. Thankfully you have no children involved. Hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): Is not that she is boring da fact is that your not over your ex,you and her got unfinish busines.you need to accept that you stil love her and feel like no one is perfect beside her.my solution get her back
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't want to upset her though! We get on ok, but she has mood swings sometimes and becomes incredibly annoying to be around, and it's always me that has to apologise to her to her , even if she is in the wrong. I look forward to days when I don't have to see her. I can't see us in the future, but I also can't see any real reason to break up. it's a very confusing situation.
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reader, LaughAlot2010 +, writes (28 September 2010):
 Personally, I wouldnt lead her on. I know it would suck if I found out the person i loved didnt love me back! I think she'll understand if she really loves you. She will realize it would be cruel just to have you go out with her just because you think it would hurt her. If shes a nice and non-selfish person she won't be too hurt. Time for you to move on if your getting tired of it. Hey, ya never know maybe she feels the same way? Hope this helped!! Make the right choice!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 September 2010):
Time to move on, and you know it. You can't be cowardly here and avoid it, even if she is devastated. She deserves someone who loves her, and you're just not that guy. Tell her it's over, let her move on.
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