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writes:So there are 2 simple things i need help with...The first things i would like help with is as follows:I'm nervous about oral sex. "Blow-jobs".I don't really know why. But is there any way to make me feel a bit more comfortable about it? I always feel embarressed or nervous about it... .My Second thing i'd like help with:"Her on Top"I'm not very good at this... lol.How do i get better. I'm a shy girl who just recently started having sex with my her fiance. I need advice lol. I know how to do it, i just don't know how to make it less awkward or embarressing. heh heh heh. I don't know really how hard i'm supossed to do it or how to sit to make it go deeper or better.... (sigh)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice ladies. :) I just feel a bit uncomfortable at times but the truth is, my man doesn't care if i do somthing wrong and you're right... there is no wrong or right way to have sex. He loves me for me and not my sex skills! lol. :)
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reader, fishdish +, writes (23 November 2009):
 Q1- maybe you could do a 69 so that the pressure isn't on you and it's not even really on making anybody come, it's just mutual stimulation. or if that makes you feel comfortable, just go slow with the blow job thing, i mean, you don't have to jump right into it, you could stroke him for a while, and maybe kiss his legs and sensitive areas nearby but not really go all out on him if you're not ready for that.
Q2- I prefer to be on top once I've already orgasmed, because the clit is more sensitive to any stimulation after an orgasm and i dont' know if you're already feeling good you're probably gonna be keen on keeping that up and enjoying yourself. My legs are pretty weak so if yours are too try to get your guy involved more by getting him to hold your butt and sort of lifting you. i don't usually rest my weight on both my knees and bounce, I like having the weight on one foot on one side and the other on my knee, sort of gives you leverage cause one leg is half standing up? that may be unclear.
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reader, old-spinstah  +, writes (23 November 2009):
This is a really hard question to answer, honey, because only you can make yourself feel less embarrassed. Sex is often awkward and fumbly when we first start and that's okay. It doesn't matter if it doesn't seem to be perfect every time. You're with a guy that loves you so don't feel shy.
I think the best thing to do is to take the bull by the horns and just go for it. Just think to yourself "I'm not quite sure how to do this, but I'm going to try anyway and I'm going to enjoy trying!" Don't be worried to ask your boyfriend what he likes and ask him to show you. There's no right or wrong way to have sex really - it's what you both enjoy doing that matters.
The only other thing I can suggest is to watch some porn movies for ideas if this doesn't mess with your beliefs. Avoid all the overtly "male" porn and google Petra Joy who is a female pornographer with a strong emphasis on female enjoyment
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