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writes:i will try to keep it short thanks to anyone that replies.i was seeing a girl for a few months and she was texting this guy all the time and going out on saturday nights etc with this guy as a part of a group. anyway he told her he liked her and i asked that she just try to minimise contact which she did apparently. however then she said she is going for a girls night out and that she didnt want me to come. so i went to that bar and he was there she dumped me and said i have trust issues etc. so we were broken up for about three weeks and she started begging for me back saying she'll change and that she loves me and needs me.. as i love her i took her back she swore to me that she was not talking to her ex or any of the guys that liked her i believed her.. anyway that was saturday we got back together its now wednesday.. last night she was saying she is going out with a friend, she then didnt return my texts or calls. i went past her house at 4am she was not there.. i call her in the morning she says i got home at 10.30, this made me really mad. i went over and said now is when u be honest with me. she said oh maybe it was like 12 when i got home.. which then turns into 1. i told her that she was not home at 4am and she fessed up she stayed at her ex's house. i broke up with her after that. i then find out that on sunday she went to see him too... the problem is i love her and i really am confused about the whole thing i dont understand. and dont know whether its worth it
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reader, Darcy2uk  +, writes (15 July 2009):
Time to accept she`s in your past and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): I don't think it is worth it. Sounds like you are experiencing the blues of breaking up with someone. But, in the end, I think your decision was the right one for yourself. From my viewpoint, I don't think in terms of whether a woman is worth it or not. I think in terms of expectations. In a relationship with a woman, there are expectations, both from her and from you. It sounds like you expect her to be mature and secure enough to want to only be with you in a trusting, exclusive and committed relationship. As you describe her, she is not presently capable of meeting your expectations for a relationship. Therefore, you need to make room in your life and heart for someone who is capable of that. Believe me, there are plenty of wonderful girls out there.
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reader, Heartbroken in love  +, writes (15 July 2009):
My advise on this will be short which is wierd cause I am usually long winded. LET HER BURN..............Take the time to get her out of your system and move on to a more loyal GF
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): do not get back with her! you deserve better than to be treated like that, The fact that you got back with her once after she'd cheated will make her think that she can do it as many times and she wants and you'll take her back each time.This sounds harsh but she obviously doesn't love you as much as you think if she keeps running off to her ex, you should leave them too it and eventually she'll realise what she's lost-again. Go out and have fun and meet new people,your only young!
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (15 July 2009):
 hun she is certainly not worth your timeshes texting other guys when you are with her lying to you about where she goes and who she is staying with!i know you love her but come on can you really say she loves you?she's going back and forth here like a yo-yo and it's unfair on you because she knows you have feelings for her so she knows flutter of her eyes and BOOM!you take her back.don't let her grind you down to dust!you tell her it's over and that's it no more! you deserve SO much better than her!and you will get so much better than her!she clearly can't decide who she wants to be with whether its you her ex or some guyso best thing is to leave her to it!make it one guy less for her to rely on.Hope this helps hun x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (15 July 2009):
 Its not worth it.She is not going to change.I know you love her and I know it hurts.But you need to stop all contact with her.Don`t take her calls and don`t call her.If she shows up at your door (unless its to get her things) tell her to leave and if she don`t call the police.Find something else to occupy your time and eventually find someone new.
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reader, Aldonza +, writes (15 July 2009):
She flat-out lied to your face and cheated on you multiple times and you don't know if it's worth it? You know it's not.There is only one answer...no contact. Do not call, text, email, smoke signal. Do not respond to any of the above from her. It will hurt like heck, but with time you'll get some healing and realize that you are OK without her.
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