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*ausha
writes:Of course in the beginning things are always hot and heavy but lately my sex life has went to shit. I'm just looking for suggestions of how to boost back up his interest. I'm not looking for the typical "get naked and/or start rubbing up against him" bs I've seen written before. Any creative solutions to this issue? I've always counted on a guy to be the instigator and have a great sex drive and for us women out there who find a sexual relationship important and NECESSARY how do you suggest getting him back into the swing of things. I've grown to not look forward to the drunken come ons and want the passion back in action!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): sorry but have u tried communicating with him - it may be a sore subject or he may not be a good communicator but it's part of the bedrock of a good relationship (as is sex :-). other than that affection, holding hands, massages, stroking etc lead to making out lead to sex. sorry i'm a guy & it doesn't take much to get me interested.
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reader, XxAnGelXxx  +, writes (20 December 2008):
 Ok I must say some of the answers saying that the guys cheating on her or just aint interested are actually bang out of order saying it as bluntly as that, it could be a million and one reasons other than that ranging from some sort of psychological problems to even a physical problem. Secondly, spice things up, buy a kinky nurses outfit, a whip perhaps! Lol ;) suprise him one day, just walk out infront of him whilst he's watching telly or something looking like something from his fantasy's, talk and explore fantasy's, try some outdoors stuff, buy a sex swing!! You just need that something new, that little bit of adventure and you'll have him humping you silly within no time ;) x
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reader, sandra78  +, writes (19 December 2008):
He is probably cheating on you. I know that 99% of men are ready wherever, whenever. The other 1% are in a coma, or havn't filled their Viagra prescription. You should check your man. Let him know your on to his bs and will not hessitate to use force. Fear is statisticaly the most powerful emotion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2008): Look, I hate to break it to you, but if he only wanst to have sex when he's drunk, then it sounds like he's just not that into you. Alcohol dulls out your senses and it helps make poor decisions. But, if he really was into you, he wouldn't be able to keep his hands off of you /sober/, and that's a fact. Ask him about it, because most guys would rather lose an arm than tell a woman she isn't the one.
Peace and luck ^^
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reader, Sausha +, writes (19 December 2008):
Sausha is verified as being by the original poster of the questiontired OR** watching sports
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reader, Sausha +, writes (19 December 2008):
Sausha is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI appreciate the suggestions but this is not a man who is sick of making the move or self-conscious of himself in anyway. I make the move plenty of times, that's what I'm sick of, cuz half the time they are failed attempts cuz he's tired of watching sports, I just want him to get the blood circulating again and was looking for some creative suggestions from people who have been in a long term relationship where the fire started to burn out. I know it's inevitable but the pilot light should still stay on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2008): Perhaps he's fed up being the instigator. How often do you show an interest and make the first move? Maybe he thinks you don't fancy him any more. Try tarting yourself up a bit and be the temptress. It's not bs to get naked and rub yourself up against him - it's bloody erotic.
At least when he gives you the drunken come-ons he's not that bladdered that he can't do anything with it - so console yourself that at least you're not what's known as a 'ten-pinter'
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (19 December 2008):
 I don't think it's his sex drive that has problems. I think it's his confidence level. He's inhibited. He either feels awkward initiating sex, or embarrassed. Also if he's slightly small below-the-decks, he may be self conscious about pleasing you and when he's drunk, he loses all his insecurities and comes forward. How a man relates to a woman is a very complicated thing. I wish you the best.
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