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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am a lesbian after being in all types of relationships, i finally found a women whom i connected with on some many levels. She was married to a man before and had, had a child. After meeting her child and her i hopelessly feel in love with both of them. after 3 months of being together everyday i asked her to marry me, she said yes not to long after her ex-husband filed for custody of their child. My partner went into a deep depression and started treating me in a disrespected manner, she even actually physically abused me. I understand she was in a deep depression and i truly tried to be their for her. I know i was treated badly and ended the relationship. She has contacted me after a month and apologized telling me she was in a bad place after she lost her child to her ex-husband. Know she wants to get better and work things out. I have forgiven her for the verbal, emotional, and physical abuse realizing she was in a place i could never imagine. We do continue to talk, however i can not commit to a full time relationship. I wonder though am i doing the right thing. What should i do??
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (19 December 2008):
 Stay friends with her for now, I think. Don't jump into a relationship again - it may be that she is just lonely and regrets what happened, and if that's the case, things could slide back into the old habits.An abusive situation is NEVER excusable, it is not something you should have to put up with at any time.At the same time, it's understandable that your ex was very very depressed. I think you should take your time with her and stay friends, she will need support and if you are willing to give it to her, that's a good thing.
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