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writes:i'm just curious about something.... if youre attracted to someone that reminds you of or is similar to your ex, does it mean you still have feelings for that person or does it just mean thats your "type""? i recently met a guy that i find really attractive and he seems to have a lot of things in common with my ex, like being articulate and having a dry sense of humor that's similar to mine, and also being into goth subculture. hes a musician (which my ex was), and also the same race. he's also a little bit of a smartass, but i am too. it was pretty much instant attraction.to be fair i do still think about my ex sometimes because we broke up earlier this year and i really loved him, but i've gone after and dated this "type" of guy before him... i'm just not sure if i might be trying to replace him with this new guy or if i really just find that type attractive and that it has nothing to do with my ex. for the record i don't ever want to date my ex again and am really glad he's not in my life anymore, i'm over him but not over the things he did to me before we broke up if i'm completely honest here, he really hurt me and betrayed my trust. so you'd think i'd run far away from anyone similar, right? haha.. but i couldn't help but wonder..thanx for your help!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (22 October 2010):
 My theory is that ex's that you really cared for can certainly create or alter your type... maybe its just a familiarity thing? I've noticed myself flip flopping on "my type" a fair few times and seeing an old girlfriends ex in a photo that looked eerily similar to me was enough to convince me. Weird.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 October 2010):
Most likely it means you have a specific type that you go for. Consistently you've gone for the same type of guy, so I'd say that there are certain things you looks for in a man, and when you find them, you fall for the guy. You even said you were over your ex and didn't want to date him again, so it's not even like this is a rebound or something. It's just the type you look for.
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