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*lliebellie
writes:hi!well my bf and i went our on 3rd date coupld of days ago and it was still kind of awkward. we didnt talk much and it was kind of embarasing. i dont know if it should still be like this. please helpthankselliexxx Reply to this Question
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reader, elliebellie +, writes (5 January 2008):
elliebellie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhiya people!
thanks for all your answers.
actaully i went out with him and some of his and my mates and it was less awkard so well probably do that.
Crisy: I think ill try and think of some questions to aks him like football and stuff so thanks for that. thanks for sharing your experience with your own bf.
Amy2007x: thanks next time we could each bring along a mate and it should be less awkward
anon: thanks. there have been moments where i know hes been thinking god help me what do i say!! so i guess a new movie is good to talk about
Dr John: i think its awkward because we are letting things happen naturally. but i think its better than straining as you say. thanks for your advice.
anon: i have actually been told that i am quite mature for my age and i have to say i am one of the maturest people in my class so i think i am mature enough to date and focus on my studies! i mean im a girl and i can multi task! thanks anyway for your opinion. thats what im looking for, different peeoples opinion.
birdynumnums: thanks for your advice. a lot of people say group dates are good. ill try it :P
chica23: i think we talk more on the phone (texting) and msn and its more comfortable. thanks for sharing your experiences with me. and im glad it isnt just me.
daletome: i think group dates are te answer!! thanks again for the advice!
thanks to everyone!
as always great advice from different people. different opinions are always welcomed from me!
thanks again
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ellie
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reader, sxcarshalz  +, writes (5 January 2008):
use both need to be yourself and do something that will get you talking a sport or activity that will get you going ask questions i felt like this aswell you get over it soon.
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reader, daletom  +, writes (5 January 2008):
Another vote here for group activities, rather than 1-on-1 "dates"!
A similar idea is to find some activity or club you can BOTH enjoy - like a Historical Re-Enactors Group; Red Cross Volunteer; coed-sports league like tennis or bowling - and participate together. The activity will provide "lubrication" to your conversation and interaction until you've developed a relationship that can run on its own.
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reader, chica_23 +, writes (5 January 2008):
me and my bf still, for the past 3 years, were akward even on our 5th date! some people are easy to connect to and some not so much. For me i knew i really liked him, i just didnt know how to approach him, i figured out its easier to be yourself and start talking to him over the computer and text, when you are comfortable with that move on to the phone, you will see you have alot in common and conversation will start to come alot easier.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (5 January 2008):
 At your age, I was, and my daughter, who is 22 was Also going on group dates, not one-on-one dates. It's easier, it's more fun, and there is less pressure to be alone with the object of your affections. It gives you a chance to get a lot more comfortable in each others company before you have to make a decision if you want to be a couple or get closer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): I think you are still immature to date focus more on your studies
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (4 January 2008):
 You may be trying too hard.
Don't be so strained but let things happen naturally.
Find a subject you have in common you can talk about together and you will start to feel more relaxed with him.
Just don't try to make things happen between you but let them happen. Hang in there. Doc
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): I say, just go with the flow, I understand that at that moment you (and him), are under a lot of preassure, you put youself into that possition, thinking, whenever the silence is in the air, "I should say something", but nothing comes up into your mind. Well, let me tell you what, he is thinking exactly the same thing. So what I'd suggest you to do is just bring up a general subject, like a new movie, and you'll see that one thing will get you to the other, and without even realizing, you'll get to know each other, then everything will be easier.
Take care :)
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reader, Amy2007x +, writes (4 January 2008):
 Its okay honest, you guys are still gettin too know each other so it aint gonna be fine right now coz u basically still dont know alot bout each other, well with my bf (who ivebeen seein for two years now) i was really shy and i felt awkwrad infron of him at first so i had to get my mate to hang around with us for a like a month sad i know! but... it worked! why done u try invittin a mate out then askin him to brin a mate out so itll lighten the mood abit and then there be conversations happenin??
jst try it for the next coupld of dates then graduly go on your own??
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reader, Crisy +, writes (4 January 2008):
 Well, the next time you go on a date with him try and pre-think questions or conversations you can bring up to break the silence, try and think of conversations he knows alot about so he can babble away. Dont worry I didnt really talk to my bf much until afew weeks because I was too shy.
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