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writes:Hiya :)I feel stupid asking this but this site has always answered my questions and really helped before so anyway.. I have never got naked in front of a guy before (or girl for that matter lol)Reason is because I've never been intimate with a guy so my clothes have always stayed on. So yeah only ever gone as far as kissing and while some say that that is a good thing, I sometimes feel nervous when I think about actually getting down to things. I mean at the end of the day boobs are boobs and vajayjays are vajayjays and bums are bums, they are all, sort of, the same, so why do I feel like mine are different and that when someone see's them they'll have something to say? I am quite a shy person but I'm quite confused to be honest :(Any answers are appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhaha okay thankyou :) x
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reader, AllisonDro  +, writes (22 February 2009):
i used to have this issue, too.
but really, a guy is gonna be so excited with the fact that you are naked, that he isn't going to be critiquing you....at all. the fact is, if hes seen you with clothes on, hes not going to be surprised by seeing you with clothes off..unless you have something really weird like a third boob or something :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCerberus - yes a vajayjay is another word for vagina, lol :)acd719, loyal, satindesire, louloulou1991 and wonderingcat - thank you for taking the time to read my question and for your comments, you have made me feel at ease :) i understand now that i should just relax and feel comfortable around the person i am with and everything should be fine :DThank you all! :) x
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (20 February 2009):
 I am a "petite" (well, okay, I admit, I am short ... LOL) with very pretty slim fingers (which remain slim even when I gained 10 lbs a couple of years ago ... weird!) and rather big upper arms so I am never comfortable wearing sleeveless tops. And yes, I have various small scars in my arms and legs as a result of being a bit of an accident prone kid as well as having very sensitive skin growing up.
But, fortunately I am comfortable enough with my body to be naked with my partner (when I am in a serious relationship), and my small scars actually become an interesting conversation piece as each one represent memories of growing up. Falling off a bike scars (bruised ego more than concern about my bloody knee, really), burn marks on my wrist from accident in a lab, another small burn mark on my back from a hot lamp (don't ask me how LOL), keloid scars on my right foot, etc etc etc. And oh, I think my labia also suffered a bit when I fell hard on a bench in college (and had to be hospitalized). But other than that, I have smooth clean skin and average proportion body. And because I am comfortable in my own skin, it feels so good to feel my partner kissing those "scars". ... Yummm .... LOL.
And oh, I used to be embarrassed about certain "members" of my breasts because they are a tadd larger than other womens' that I know of. I think you know which anatomical part that is, i.e. they are the "traitors" when you say you are aroused but they tell you differently? LOL
So, like acd719 says, the main thing is to keep yourself clean and hygienic at all times! and to your man, you'll be great!
And like Loyal (who claims to be not a man whore LOL) said also, I agree with him that it is best to get naked only with partners with whom you have a strong bond and emotional connection.
Have fun!
Cat
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): What's a vajayjay? Vagina?
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reader, louloulou1991 +, writes (20 February 2009):
 hi its lou...
thought i would try and help you,because at first thats just how i felt!
everything changes when you fall in love just trust me on that... when you feel secure around a man who loves you for you... however i dont expect you to just go out and find love!!
so first... just make sure like the other answers have said.
.be clean!
.dont push yourself into anything you dont want
and most importantly when you do come to get intimate...
RELAX!!
thats so important to relax and thats when you start to enjoy whats happening to you, giving a positive experiance to everything...
until you feel ready to have sex or even just get intimate with someone you dont have to do a thing!its your life !!
you are compleatly normal in every way do not panic!
hope this helped....lou
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reader, loyal +, writes (20 February 2009):
Im not a Man Whore but Ive had my fair share of sexual encounters so you can take this as Reassuring advice or just a Mans opinion. The Most important thing is that your hygeine is "up to par" and another thing id suggest is that whomever you decide to get Naked with make sure you have feelings for them, emotional sex is the best, As long as your partner is mature, and you dont have any rare deformilties you should be fine...enjoy.Loyal
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): you're fine, don't worry! unless you have three nipples or a dirty butt or a stinky, unmanaged pussy lol you should be fine
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