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writes:I'm 24, M, hetero, virgin, and have never dated anyone romantically in my life. I'm rarely interested in other people, and when I am...I am usually rejected. Nobody I am interested in has ever been interested in me.I'm pretty successful for my age, but a total failure in regards to having a love life.Ethnicity: ChineseLooks: 4-5/10 (6-7/10 for my own race) (5/10 being average)Height: 5'8''/AthleticYearly Income: borderline $XXX,XXXEducation: GradI'll write more about myself when I get to it... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your kind responses. I will write more when I have time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI live a spartan life relative to my income. This spartan life is reflected in my goal of keeping my body alive with a modest degree of well-being until death. Thus, I spend very little of my disposable income and all my capital goes to savings and investments.
I live alone and my apartment is rather empty and devoid of life as I have no one. I buy very little and have an empty closet. As for physical possessions I have nothing significant but a computer, professional oriented textbooks, textbooks from college, books about warfare and weapons, and free weights.
I don't watch TV at all, either. I'm in good shape mainly because I exercise by myself a few hours every Sunday. I do not cook, have little interest in food, and consume a very bland but healthy diet.
I have no excesses at all. I have absolutely no desire to drink, smoke, or eat out. I find the first two abhorrent.
I will write about my interests in the next post.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, the title of my post was a question but it was edited by the moderator. I would like for people to comment as I write more and more about myself. I'd rather not be alone anymore, provided that is possible given what I am. Advice is appreciated. Thanks very much.
As for the Chinese comment, I'm Chinese myself and I do not have the desire to be politically correct.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): I don't think you have a problem. Look, there are some people that date continuously and when they end one relationship they go right to another one. There are other people, whose main focus and priorities don' t center around dating, relationships and sex.
I am with you. I am female, 22, very successful at what I do and I haven't had a boyfriend for over 5 yrs. My last date was in November with a man from Germany (he was just visiting). The last guy I really liked, I met over 2 years ago. He was an older guy and thought our age difference was inappropriate even though he was really attracted to me. So, I haven't been that lucky myself.
If you want to have better successful with women, a lot of it comes from working on your confidence and yet maintaining your humility. Don't be afraid of being funny or a little awkward. You might not met Mrs. Right off the bat but eventually if you open yourself to the possibility, you will find someone who appreciate you for who you are and the honesty that you project.
Try not to compare yourself to everyone else. It is not a helpful thing I have found. You are you, no one else. Don't be pressured. When it comes along, great, until then just work on your life and the person you want to become. Surely in time someone will come by and appreciate you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, I would be interested in the documentation. Thank you.
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (15 July 2008):
 Maybe you're not a people's person. I may be able to refer you to some documentation on the subject. IF! you think that it may be a problem
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the kind response. I will further detail my person.
I think I feel like I have a realistic picture of my strengths and weaknesses...as well as how I could appear strange to most people.
However, I do not believe that I lack confidence, because in fact I possess an inkling of a superiority complex (in different areas, of course). This superiority complex manifests itself in me by making me a mild sociopath. I often have little concern for the feelings and emotional well-being of other people unless they are a means to serve my end.
As for my social circle, I do not have any as of the present moment. I do not have any friends or family at all. For exception of occasional contact with my mother (of whom I vehemently dislike), I am completely alone.
I have strange interests which preclude me from really connecting with most normal people and cause me to be repulsed by most human beings. I find the vast majority of human beings (and my own existence) to be abhorrent.
The only deep interpersonal relationship I've ever enacted was a falsity and through the internet. I tricked a young and successful upper-middle class white woman into falling in love with me by using lies, manipulation and fake photographs (of a good looking white man). This lasted for almost a year and I succeeded in making her masturbate a few times a week through internet phone for me. I was never really in love with her at all. I just used her to satisfy my sexual desire as well as using her (and her fantasies) to satisfy my human instinct of reproduction.
I will write about my interests for the next post...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): I completely agree with birdynumnus. Women love men who radiate confidence. Don't cross the borderline between confidence and big headedness. Women hate concieted people.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (15 July 2008):
 Hi Hun,
I think that most women do like a confident man! Although you are sucessful, you do not seem to have a lot of confidence in yourself. Don't be so hung up on looks. I'm sure that you can think of plenty of example of men who aren't George Clooney, but radiate confidence and have women draped all over them, even in your own life and circle of friends, right? We all know guys like that. They have a certain something. I hated the fact that you are decribing yourself and putting yourself down, by the way. You probably are better-looking than you think! How proud you are of yourself and how you carry yourself goes a long way in convincing those around you of your own self confidence. You are young, successful guy who is pretty tall and athtletic! That's a great start! Be happy about those things!
So - You certainly have the success part down pat, and you are in good physical shape too. Do you have any skills or hobbies that make you different from other people? Often, things outside of work are a great place to learn new interests and meet new people. Is thare something that you have forgotten about for years, that you loved as a kid? Volunteer Firefighter? Learning to fly? Diving lessons? All great new ways to pick up a new skill and meet new people. If you follow an old Passion, you may awaken that Spark in you that attracts others to you. You are still a very young guy, so don't get worried about this happening, because it will happen for you. And men just get better looking with age, so aren't you lucky there too! Good Luck with everything, Hun.
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reader, Swanson +, writes (15 July 2008):
"Looks: 4-5/10 (6-7/10 for my own race)"
Maybe you should start by realizing that Chinese people aren't inherently less attractive!!
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (15 July 2008):
 Since you're putting all your stats, why don't you put them in an internet dating site?
www.Match.com
www.eHarmony.com
You'll probably get to know someone in there that might interst you and that you'll be interested of. They match the couples based on compatibility. YOu don't lose anything on checking them out.
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