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writes:hey ! im just wondering are women all the same ? heres my story ive dated this girl for about a year . im not the richest person don't make the best wages . the ex was a big spender loved to eat out fancy places , designer clothes , bags, everything u name it . she a spoil brat . told her it would really good help if u get a job help urself cant really always rely on be to get everything . she said to me why should i work same as for everything why should i get my license really bugs me . it really shits me when she talks about her guy friends tell me how well off they are how they buy there gf pressies give them a few hundred for the weekend n stuff cuts me ! its bs half of them are drug dealers as well ^^ . are all women like this they love money all the goodies but dont wanna work for it ? they make it sound like money is the biggest issue in life . the reason why im not with u anymore casue u cant get what i want ... is this all women ? never really known a independent women
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reader, KeighleySky  +, writes (3 June 2010):
 Well there obviously not good for you, id steer clear of them honey. If a girl turns round and says if you want a date you have to pay then they're not worth it, the only time a guy should pay for a whole date (though i wouldn't let him) is when its her birthday. I hat it that some women can turn around and say they hate that men have all these rights and they have none and then we're betrayed by these kinds of women who expect the man to pay for EVERYTHING. I annoys me it really does. Dicth any girl who expects you to give her money to go out. Like i said before your not her father!
Good luck in love honey :) xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know some scum bags guys who the girls like . its because they think by shouting a girl fancy dinner , drinks , driving her around think there good in the end of the day there wasting there money . all they want to do is get in her pants . the girls think there nice freinds n stuff then they think all guys are like that but at the end of the day they just want sexual pleasure but they aint get any .
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (3 June 2010):
 I think you have just met the wrong women!
I personally will happily admit I love money, it is important to me and I dont think I could be in a relationship with someone who was struggling financially. I have my life which I love and I want to be kept in that manner, not having to stay home every night because we cant afford anything!
However I work full time in a good job with good career prospects (I'm 23 by the way). I make reasonalby good money and can afford to buy myself what I want.
In terms of my partner's financial state - yes he has to have money (as in he needs to be working in a good job that is going somewhere), and I will admit I like being taken out for dinner, bought gifts etc like most girls do - but then I also like buying my boyfriend surprises and nice gifts, being able to take him out for dinner occasionally is always nice too. I dont believe in all this equality nonsense - if a man earns more money than me then yes I expect him to pay a bit more towards things, but I would never rely on him completely to fund my lifestyle.
I would never use a man for his money, I would never let myself be so lazy that I wouldnt work while my partner slaves away at work making money for me to spend. When you love someone you would never do that to them - it is not fair!
So your girlfriend is totally in the wrong here and I think it is time for you to let her go, if she wants to use someone for money then dont let it be you that is the poor fool who falls for her.
Not all girls are like this so just get rid of your girlfriend and wait for a lovely, genuine girl comes along who is not just a gold-digger.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionKeighleySky i like what ur saying i think the same i like to go halfs thats that doesnt really work with the good lookin girls in sydney . they say if u cal me out u have to pay for me why should i pay ? pretty sad isnt it to be honest theres not many independent asian / women in sydney
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reader, Accountable +, writes (3 June 2010):
 No, that isn't all women. My boyfriend and I split the cost of whatever we do together, and are both working, aswell as being in education. Sometimes he buys me things, sometimes I buy him things - everything evens out eventually.
You're just going for the wrong sort of woman. There are independant ones out there!
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reader, BunnyTee  +, writes (3 June 2010):
 No, honey, not all women are like that at all. I think women like you're describing here are the exception rather than the rule.
Many of us work and support our own habits and high maintenance costs-I'm one of them.
It sounds as though your girl expects you to foot the bill for it all and she ups the ante by demeaning you and making you feel less-than-best hopefully driving you harder to please her.
Not only is this inconsiderate, it is manipulative and cruel.
You are well within your rights to request that she get off her ass and make a contribution to life. You're not her servant. Nor her bank account. Require her to get off the couch, put down the bon-bons and turn off the soaps and get a damn job and buy her own D&G, CK, Vuitton, and Versace like a decent woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): No it's not all women, some women want to be spoiled and taken care of financially, others want to be independent and have their own money.
Unfortunately you seem to have found one with that false sense of monetary entitlement.
It's simply the kind of people you know then, because I don't know any girls that are like that, truly none. The women I know value the freedom they get from having their own money.
They have their own cars, apartments, careers and they enjoy having an equal even sometimes better finincial footing than their boyfriends.
As I said though that's just the kind of people I associate with and the kind of things we value in life are very similar.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): It's true that women love money but some women don't push their luck. I, myself, love money and loves to spend whenever she has money but I don't rely on my partner to buy me stuff. Women who asks for a lot of expensive things and either dumps you or just goes in a mood are basically gold diggers. A women that doesn't have a job and don't intend on getting one will most likely be gold diggers and will more than likely go for someone who is rich/earns good money. No, not all women date guys because they have money. I, myself, don't care if guys have money or not. It's the personality that should count, not the money that they have or earn. Try avoiding gold diggers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): No not all women are like that. Yes there are gold diggers in this world but most women want love above money. For me personally, I know i would not be fulfilled with a guy who was rich and bought me things but there was not real love between us. I guess some poeple may truly be happy with money alone but the majority are not. Now im sure most women fantasize or have fantasized about being with someone rich, imagining what it would be like to be wined and dined, given expensive gifts and jetting off to exotic places. The thing about these fantasies are the women are imagining that this rich guy is copletely in love with them, and they are in love with the guy as well. Again it comes down to love. You were in fact dealing with a brat and she should realize that thats a really unnatractive quality. Many women are becoming more independent and feel almost liberated that they can earn as much or more than their boyfriends or husbands. The sad thing is that the gold digger brats will be alone or strung from superficial relationship to superficial relationship. You can find an independant girl who wants to be with you for you and not what you van provide for her, dont worry they are out there!!!
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reader, KeighleySky +, writes (3 June 2010):
Im independant! no not al women are like that, you should turn around and tell her that your not her father, she shouldnt get 'spends' from you. And just because loads of people give their girlfriends hundreds of pounds to spend on the weekend doesn't mean you have to. I hate having my boyfriend pay for me, i like to go half wiht him. Like on Valentines day, he got the cinema tickets and i got the food. She kinda sounds like a gold digger and personally good riddence.
Some girls out there are great hney and independant :) xx
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