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writes:Said she needs space, does that mean we are on a break?Do I still text her and say happy thanksgiving?
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (25 November 2010):
 It means she needs space!..........she must have too much on her plate right now and feels that she is not able to offer you all the attention you crave and deserve. Don't contact her, let her be. Don't make any contact AT ALL.... giver her some time to sort out her things and concentrate on your own life in the meantime( school, work, friends, hobbies). Keep yourself busy so that you don't obsess over it to much. She just said she needs space, she did not say you were done! so I would not be too eager to start seeing new people just yet!. If you start asking her about seeing other people, etc, you will just stress her out even more and you will push her away even more. Let her miss you, giver her time.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): NOOOOO, don't listen to Chigirl. No offence chi but he should at no time bring up the idea of him having sex with other girls more or less asking if that's okay. Haven't you ever seen 'Friends'? hehe.
No rules, she needs space. That means exactly that but nothing at all else. Don't even think about getting with anyone else, needing space or a break is her of evaluating the relationship without you there so she can consider things objectively. If you go and ask her if it's okay to go with other girls then you'll just be opening up a can of worms.
Yes text her happy thanksgiving and leave it at that. Don't follow that up try and talk to her, or phone her unless she initiates. Of course it's thanksgiving sending her your wishes is juts polite. Just keep it simple and don't ask any questions, or say anything designed to make her respond.
Just "happy thanksgiving, enjoy your meal :)" something like that.
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reader, alice0110  +, writes (25 November 2010):
needing space could mean a break or it could mean continuing your relationship but just not being together all of the time. talk to her and see how she feels, but listen to her :)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 November 2010):
 The best thing to do is ask her to make absolutely sure. Then decide on rules for the break. Is seeing other people ok? Is having sex with others ok?
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (25 November 2010):
I wouldn't say you are on a break, but then again I don't know the reasons why she needs space.
Based on what I know I don't see any problem sending her a text saying happy thanksgiving.
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reader, boogie4 +, writes (25 November 2010):
I say yes, but keep it short. Wait, and see what type of response you get.
If it's a warm response...go slow. Don't text back until tomorrow.
If it's a cold response...don't text back. She will get pissed that you didn't read her first signal.
Hope this helps...
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