Are these actions totally fine or are they a little inappropriate?

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I'm not sure what to think about some of my bf's interactions with women/female friends. First of all I want to say that I'm not an overly jealous person but I'm very perceptive. My bf is a very outgoing and chatty person. He's the kind of guy who walks up to strangers at a party (male and female) and starts a conversation. Sometimes he'll be talking to some girl he never met before even if I'm with him. There are a couple instances that bothers me but I didn't make it a big deal and it's only when it came up in the conversation later that I expressed my opinion. One time, we were at agar with friends and the waitress arrived and he started talking to her in a very friendly way, calling her by her first name. No big deal, that's how he is. But later on, I went to the bathroom and when I came out I saw that he was having a conversation with her alone in the area where the screen is to put in the orders in. And when I asked him what they were talking about, he said that they were talking about school and a couple things they had in common. I let it go but I thought it was a bit weird for him to go talk to her separately. When we talked about it later, he said that he wasn't even attracted to her, they just had similar personalities and he wasn't hitting on her. I said that she probably thought that he was though. And he said that it was clear I was his gf so she wouldn't have thought that. Whatevs...the funny thing is, we saw her again at a Starbucks a few months later, she made our coffees and he clearly saw it was her but neither made eye contact and he was trying to talk to me the whole time. When we got out, I said "wasn't she the waitress from that bar?" and he said yeah, it was xyz. And I said "why didn't u say hi to her?" and he said she looked like she was busy and it would have looked weird and he didn't know how I would react. Hmmm

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