After an almost two year relatiuonship, my boyfriend and I broke up, he had commitment problems, and his job required a lot, I am devastated, how do I move on with my life?

A female age 41-50, *ittlejazz writes:

my boyfriend broke up with me out of blue 4 weeks ago after a 1 year 9 months relationship. He moved away half a year ago (4 hours drive away) but come to see me every week (his job allows him to fly in or drive over). everything was going great until his recent work crisis and he is really stressed out. his reason is, our relationship hasn't been very good since lately I hinted desire to commit and he is not available to; and his job could take him out of the country, I could find jobs anywhere else (not fair to string me along, we have been working on finding me a job to his city, which hasn't been going well); his job is first priority and I will be happier without him. He has always said he loved me,but on that day he said he "cared" for me and wanted me to be happy. I cried, briefly, but agreed to it and let him go. He is an extremely mature man and knows what he wants in life, take great pride and has big aspiration in his career. I admired and loved him so much and now I am only shocked and devastated. I haven't contacted him for all these 4 weeks except once I replied his only email 2 weeks ago, which is only about greeting each other. This is extremely difficult not to communicate with him, although my pride helped a little. I feel so hurt I have to cry every day to let go the bad feelings and just to be able to sleep. I begin to doubt whether he really loved me and that feeling is so awful.I want to know what to do, what he is thinking and whether we have any hope (to commit to each other).

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