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writes:Are there any good women in the world? Everywhere I look they always seem to be horrible. Doesn't help when the last 2 girls I dated were snidy even though they dumped me after 3 and 1 dates respectively. I was nice to them. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): Whoa!! Nice guys finish last.?? Girls enjoy the challenge of taming a man?? Excuse me....since when?? Oh my, I couldn't disagree with those assessments more. Well, I don't think nice guys finish last. In fact, in the end they can come out on top, with time and patience. The nice guys are the ones that get quickly recognized as being ideal for quality, long term relationships. The biggest reason many women never choose the 'nice guy' is mainly due to her own lack of common sense and discernment in choosing a good man, who she wants to have a good quality future with. A lot of women who date bad boys can be very naive. To many of these women, the bad boys seem fun, brash and desirable bur they're too 'blinded' to recognize that these 'bad boys' make lousy husbands, fathers and life partners. These gals simply haven't matured or learned, yet, to discern that true love entails respect, honor and trust. Some discriminate quickly and some never do. It takes some women many tortuous years of dating/marrying a bad guy to realize her bad boy's big, monumental personality change, is not just around the corner. Meanwhile, she keeps allowing him wipe his boots off, on her-over and over again. There's nothing wrong with the nice guy-it's likely that you have been meeting a lot of women who simply-like to date jerks. Let them have the jerks. My recommendation to you...if you are a nice man who show respect for women..there is an amazing, intelligent, bright woman for you out there and she will find you. So you hold out for the right girl and don't change who you are. You will recognize her when you meet her. If a woman won't date you because you are nice and you do treat women with respect, then it's her loss, isn't it? Don't change who you are. Move on to the next one
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reader, Mushgirl +, writes (21 October 2007):
 Nah, sorry, we're ALL EVIL. We ALL hate men. In fact, even my toothbrush is made from the nosehairs of my last victim...
Best wishes,
A Horrible, Snidely Woman
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): Nice guys finish last. Ignore what women say that they want and look at what is actually working on them in real life.
You can be a nicer guy when you're dating women of about 30+. But most girls in their early 20s are usually still looking to get used as a f*ck-toy by some a**holes for a few more years. After that, she'll finally settle down and find a "nice guy" to take care of the kids that all the a-holes have fathered with her.
It's not nice to talk about women in this way but it's totally true.
And beware that if you're not a "nice guy" you'll get called all sorts of names. You'll totally be the bad-guy to everyone if you do what gets you laid in your early 20s. There's only room in the culture for men to be the problem in these situations. Women don't get held accountable for the role they actively play in causing these situations.
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reader, Dextro69 +, writes (17 October 2007):
 There are plenty of good women out there they are just hidden away. until i found my near perfect fiance (she farts worse than me and my dad put together so loses some points) i always had problems the main one been i was to nice, in nature terms the problem is women want a b****d when they are single as this type of male is stronger and will provide better ofspring but when they are pregnant or have children they want the softer nice guy as he will take care and provide for the ofspring. this isnt to say the nice guy has no chance, they do, look at where you meet these girls meeting in pubs / clubs on a weekend when they are drunk isnt going to find you the best catch. try clubs and the like also tho not always the best place to look but work at least you have at least one thing in common (normaly dislike for the company you work for :) )
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reader, Cateyes  +, writes (16 October 2007):
 I agree with the last response in how women are "picked", however, you may need to do some searching within yourself to see what types of women you ask out. Women, like men, vary in every shape, size, color, personality, you name it...and being said, it's best to always get to know the person - what's inside them, what kind of heart do they have - before coming to any conclusion of whether you should date.
Women do like nice men, respectful men, trustworthy men. They also like a man with a sense of humor. As long as you are being this type of man, do not try to change...your just meeting the wrong one. Get to know the woman first, then if she does have that quality about her do ask her out. Let the friendship guide you....you will be amazed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007): from my perspective I have been seeing the same problems- "where are all the good men in the world?"- sometimes its just temperment, sometimes its experience, sometimes its just the bold, loud, obnoxious people who dont understand what they are doing to more sensitive and reflective hearts.Dont worry- keep looking no matter what- there are girls who are aware of their power over hearts... Try not to always look at "looks"- its usually the prettiest ones who are self-centered, ignornat, stuck up or bitchy. There are nice girls out there- GUARANTEED- try some new activities or get involved in community work and you will find them almost certainly ( thats where the selfless, shy or lonesome people usually are!)
Good luck I know they are out there!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007): I am female, but gonna answer this as the way i see things in todays world.
There are plenty of good females out there,but seems most men want the trophy to sit on a pedastel to show off sort to speak, so then you run into what i call the looks dont always bring beauty.
Maybe your looking at the wrong girls,im not saying all pretty woman are shallow,but most what i call pretty boys and your a typical woman seem to be very shallow if not cold.
No, i am not,ugly or anything, or putting down anyone,i been married 20 years, but i watch friends and so on,all go through these cycles,even my 2 sons have been through this cycle.
As i told them, i will tell you,look beyond the persons outside canister,it is the inside of the human soul where you will find what your looking for, both of my boys finally married to woman they absoulty adore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007): Firstly no not all girls are horrible! Lol and secondly are you being too nice??
I know it sounds really silly but a lot of girls enjoy the challenge of taming a man! If he comes across too nice the challenge isnt there and its boring! Do you make the girls laugh??? Its a really important factor and it does work.... making a girl laugh is half way to being in a relationship with her even if you are unattractive or too nice.
Try being a bit cheeky and dont text back straight away, ive heard about the 'at least half an hour rule' when a girl texts dont even think of texting back for at least half an hour.
'treat them mean keep them keen'!
Hope this has helped chick
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 October 2007):
 For all my grumpiness, I am absolutely sure there is plenty of good women in the world. I have had the luck to meet several of them, and they will be forever in my memory (forever meaning "as long as I live").
There is obviously a problem with your relationships. You might be unlucky, or perhaps you have trouble communicating, but, if two girls dump you like that, you need to analyze yourself and see what you're doing wrong.
Take care.
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