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writes: Are most men generally sex-mad beings? Who if finished with one girl they happen to be seeing or been with, go straight onto the next, without a thought of the person they had been involved with before??Just curious on your opinions with this.Thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): There are TONS of men who are not like this at all.
If this is what you see in all men, then the simple fact is that "all men" that you see are not representative of the gender at all. Please don't excuse them for it on a personal level and then transfer the blame onto the entire gender. That's just a convenient way to justify the bad behavior of the men you're spending time around. If you don't like men who are this way, you have a choice.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (10 December 2006):
 No, all humans differ in opinion and beliefs, regardless of gender. You should judge each person as they stand alone, not on how you EXPECT their gender to behave.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (6 December 2006):
 Some. But people change too, I think most men change as they get older. Immaturity is part of it. I think making a relationship work takes open yet non-accusitory discussions about our emotions. Being able to ask for things wiithout making the other person feel bad. This is something that comes naturally to women, but not to men. Once we learn how to do this (it took me until my 30s), then we are better able to handle a really commited relationship. Until we learn, we tend to not know how to ask for what we want, or communicate in the right ways. The result: we want to run off and find someone else. We think the problem is with 'them', when in fact it is with us.
The best thing you can do as a woman, in my opinion, is to teach your boyfriend how to speak his heart openly and in a positive way. It's something as boys growing up we never seem to get to learn how to do. As they say... 'boys don't cry'.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (6 December 2006):
 "Are most men generally sex-mad beings?"
sex-mad beings... it made me laugh.
I think most men love sex. That's no question. Hell, most women love sex... but men really, really do. The ones who don't are few and far between. But are most men players? No, I don't think so. There are a lot of jerks in the world, but I don't think all guys are. Maybe 25%.
I think guys are good at veiling their emotions - way better than women (in general). They rebound too, just like chicks do. And hey, most guys do go through that sex-crazed phase, when they are overwhelmed with thoughts sent directly from their penis. Most guys get over that with a little maturity.
I think that a lot of men are looking for that one special girl (or guy) who they want to be with for the rest of their lives. I don't think all men are incapable of love, only lust. When they're ready to start looking for that fulfilling relationship, they'll start looking.
There are a whole lot of creeps out there,
but there are also a whole lot of sincerely nice guys too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): Men differ greatly in what they want from relationships.
I used to long for a stable long term relationship. But after the woman I loved hurt me I just don't feel interested in serious relationships anymore. And so these days I'm just after one thing.. Judge me if you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): Not all men are sex mad, unfortunately for me my husband is not even mildly sex mad!!, but I suppose it is a good thing really, because at least he wont be running off with the next bit of skirt that catches his eye!.
So I think its safe to say that not all men are that way, BUT!!! there are a lot of them out there.
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reader, kellyO +, writes (6 December 2006):
 I grew up with four brothers and i do believe that men generally tend to want to love with their bodies more why we women want to love with our heart. But it isnt a man intention to jump from woman to woman. They believe in love as well but in a different sort of way.
But when a man does fall he loves he does that genuinely and can forgive almost anything. Their love generally goes deeper than we females.
Also believe this or not it is a science fact that generally female tend to be more polygamous than males.
There is alot of controversies surrounding these issues. But one thing i believe is that females just likes males have had their own fair share in disregarding partners and insensitivities so it might not be fair to generalise sometimes and put blame on sorely one gender.
Kelly
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (6 December 2006):
 Some men are players, they see a challenge in changing from woman to woman, it is a sign that they are immature, insecure and are afraid to commit for whatever reason.
If you come across one, do not bother unless you are prepared to wait about ten years for them to grow up.
Fortunately, there are still good men out there that are looking for just one girl to love and be loved.
xxx
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reader, Lytoo +, writes (6 December 2006):
I've also asked myself this question. I think that yes men seem to have a need for different females in their lives to be at ease, be it lust or sexual. But how they feel towards these women can differ. Maybe they get bored more easily then women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): I think many men try to act as if they are sex-mad beings and go from girl to girl, they do this when they are experimenting with sex, or are not ready for a relationship because they are not settled enough in their career goals, or because they do not have any goals and are a bit lost, or because of a lack of maturity.
Men are wired differently then females, they can easily hook up with a girl and not think to much about her later as they do not necessarily bond with her after sex...where women usually sleep with a guy because they are driven by the desires of their hearts...and are generally hurt when the man does not call her again....
Our best defense as females is to withhold sex as long as possible with a man to guage his true intentions, and to allow him to fall in love with us without the pressure and complication that sex brings to a relationship....we can behave sexually, kiss and makeout, etc, but don't go too far too fast and this way you cam protect your heart a little more than if you just jump into bed and try to move too fast....it is so easy to do when you are strongly attraced and really like someone, but just remember that the pay off down the road for waiting is a lasting relationship based on friendship and trust and a true connection.
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