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writes: Hey people! i'm 14 (in 6 days) and i have been with my amazing boyriend for 7 months almost now. He's 15 lets just call him ,...rob. Rob is great, he loves me to bits and know that i love him loads and loads too. He's caring, sweet, funny and respectful and i know he would never hurt me. We have been talking recently and every now and again he would drop hints about having sex. we have gone quite far before but never all the way. so i talked to him and he said thats its ok if i dont want to and that he would wait as he is unsure himself. then the next day he makes another comment...but he always manages to do it in a funny way as if he's joking (but i know he's not) so i told him that i was really unsure and he promised that he would wait. i know he would neva pressure me into anything but i still silently freak out. i get scared al ot (because when i was young i was almost raped...but thats another story) any advice on how to handle this situation, im soo confused :S any advise would help love ya and thanks to all xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2006): im in the opposite situation. im 15 and my bf is bout 5 months younger than me, but hes mentally older and mature. my 16 yr old mate tom has scared him out of sleeping with me coz my mate doesnt want me 2 get hurt or get pregnant. i really love my bf so ill wait. and if ur bf really did care 4 u he will. he shouldnt rush u into something coz ull just regret it. ive got a mate and shes 16 and she lost her viginity when she was 14 and she regrets it and would give anything 2 not have done it.
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reader, Prada +, writes (7 December 2006):
It is really simple if he really loves you as much as he says he does then he should have no problem waiting.You just need to take your time and maybe something that you could do to give him an idea when you might be ready set an age wher you think that you might be able to take the next step.But again please just take your time because the last thing you want to do is regret it.
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reader, Missie +, writes (6 December 2006):
girl, you are only a virgin once, it is the one single thing that is yours and belongs only to you. being nervouse about the whole situation tells you just how unprepared you are. You want to be nervouse but excited about losing it, take. your. time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): Wait until you are ready. You'll remember it for the rest of your life--and if it isn't a pleasant memory you will have regrets. You're so young--there ain't no rush!
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reader, Nikita  +, writes (6 December 2006):
 Hiya JJ, I know how you feel I was there myself when I was fourteen which seems like many moons ago! It seems to me like your b/f is testing the waters a bit with his comments and hints, to see how far you're willing to go. Its good that he says he would never pressure you. You're both very young and with what happened to you in the past you need to take things very slowly and wait a while until your're absolutely ready. he sounds like a nice guy so if as you say he respects you he will wait no matter how long it takes. There's also the little fact that you're both underage but you don't need me to tell you that! Have you told him about what happened to you in the past because if he know this then itll help him to understand why you want to wait and why you get so scared. (it might be helpful to talk to an adult about what happened anyway if you feel able and want to) just take things slowly and enjoy having fun okay. Take care of yourself.
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