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writes:What I want to know is simple really. Are love stories real? Unlike popular belief, Im a teenage boy who doesn't want to get into some girls pants and I don't think about sex all the time like many my age. What I want is someone who can truly make me happy. Taylor swifts song "love story" is a song I loved because it made me believe that love stories were real and it just made me happy. I thought if you genuinely cared about someone then eventually you could be together. The girl I care about shows no sign of liking me back. She never replys to my texts or makes an effort to talk to me while I try to talk to her so I could eventually tell her how I felt. She is everything anyone could ask for in a girl. Smart funny a great personality nice and beautiful so I wouldn't expect her of all people to do this to me. I thought if you care about a person enough they would eventually come to you. Are love stories real? Does every deserving person have one? Do you think I can have my love story? These are the questions on my mind. I appreciate all of the answers.
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (24 February 2011):
Caring about someone is not enough, they need to care about you too, and this does not happen just because you care about them.
For me love does exist as I have experienced it, in many different ways. There are many different ways to love someone, and to be loved, over time you might expereince some of these yourself. You can decide which kinds are most important to you.
As for this girl, if she isn't replying to you, it means she isn't really interested in you. That doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you, she just hasn't given you a chance to see how wonderful you are and how much you love her. The point is though, even if you did get your chance, she might still not be interested in you. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you, or how you love her, it just means that different people like different things, and she wants to choose something else. It doesn't mean you have to like her any less because she doesn't like you, it just means you can't be with her. That's ok, keep meeting other new and interesting and wonderful people, and when you are in the right place at the right time, you will meet someone that you like who likes you too.
Good luck.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (24 February 2011):
 If you want to follow the path of love songs, go for "God Bless the Broken Road," because it's not just a song... it actually makes a valid point. I cannot begin to explain the road i've been down, and I'm still convinced that somewhere down it later in life, I will find the person who made the trip worth it. Just because you care about her, does not make life happen the way you want it to. Consider the fact that if she did agree to go out with you, you could end up having a terrible relationship and ending it. The best kind of love in one which you don't have to break your back to find. Love usually finds you, and when it does, it's caring, forgiving, patient, kind, and selfish, and believe when it gets to you, it'll be worth it. What's your hurry? If you want to find that one girl who will be your whole world, you better put a lot of thought, time, and effort into it. I admire you morals and the way you are, so you should wait for a girl who can admire you equally/more. You should not settle or pine for a girl who cannot give you all she's got
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (24 February 2011):
 a great personality, nice and beautiful? are you sure her personality is so nice if she does not even bother to talk to you or reply to your texts? just as you have your favourite girl and do not fancy the others, this girl cannot be expected to fancy every boy. you will one day meet a girl who like you back, wants to talk to you and wants to text you and see you, this will be your love story! she might even be someone you know already who you have not really noticed
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reader, Odds +, writes (24 February 2011):
 "I thought if you care about a person enough they would eventually come to you. "
That, I'm sorry to say, is the great lies we tell kids when they're growing up. You don't get a girl by caring about her, or by wanting her, or by doing all the right tings that a man should do; you get her by being attractive to her.
That's not to say that you *shouldn't* do those first three things - rather, it's to say that without the last thing, the other three will net you only disappointment.
Learn what girls want - not by asking them, because they don't know any more than you do (having been fooled by love stories themselves). Learn by observing what they actually respond to.
As a hint, always ask a girl out *before* you like her. Get to like her at the same time. Asking her out once you already have feelings puts tremendous pressure on her, and she won't respond well.
"Smart funny a great personality nice and beautiful..."
There are a ridiculous number of gilrs who meet these criteria. She is not special yet. Being hot or smart doesn't make a girl special - having shared memories and experiences with you does. Until you have grown mutually attached to a girl through time together, she is replaceable (and I guarantee she thinks the same of guys).
"Does every deserving person have one?"
Depends on your definition of "deserving." If you mean a person who is willing to work for it, to put in the effort required to be attractive, and to be willing to face and accept failure as a part of the path to success - then yes, there's someone for every deserving person. By any other definition, no, there is not someone for everyone.
"Love stories" are the stories about people who got lucky, and met someone they were attracted to, who was also attracted to them, at a convenient time in both their lives. For most people (particularly outside of fiction), relying on luck leads to celibacy and bitterness. The good news is you can take fate into your own hands and become whoever you want ot be, if you're willing to take the necessary steps.
Move on from this girl, learn about chicks and about yourself, and when you're ready, start searching again.
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reader, moonvalentino +, writes (24 February 2011):
Love is a brilliant, complicated thing. You are a very mature, young male. Many girls want that quality - to love and appreciate a girl for who they are with absolute dedication and admiration. One day, a girl is going to recognize you for your good heart and you will rightfully be loved back! Just don't expect much at a young age. Young love exists; but it is a struggle. Teenage love requires a lot of nurturing and time to fulfill and some of these aspects are challenged by high school drama, schoolwork, the uncertain future, etc. Love does in fact exist! It is not perfect, but if you make the best out of it, you will find it a rewarding experience. Yes, it can be a pain because love does hurt. But with a strong, focused heart you will find the right girl for you. If you can accept a girl for who she is already and care about her enough, that is a strong enough base personality trait that will be a very important aspect in later relationships. If this one doesn't go right, with the girl you like at the moment that is, then don't be so disappointed! It is important to give your heart some respect too. Don't give your heart 100 percent so quickly because you will be shattered. We don't want this to throw you off and be disappointed completely regarding relationships! You are smart, young man. You already value the true meaning of "making love" rather than "having sex." The fact that you already respect your true love (whom you have not met yet) makes you certainly a good lover.So to wrap it all up, yes you will have your love story. It depends on if you make the best or worst of it. Love takes time and effort on both sides and whatever happens, happens. You can't expect someone to come to you but if you already tried to the best of your ability - then that's all that counts.Best of luck to you xx
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (24 February 2011):
 "Are Love Stories Real???" Some are some aren't.
"Does every deserving person have one?" No.
"Do you think I can have my love story?" Yes. If you recognize it and grab hold of it with both hands.
My love story started unfolding when I was 15. Then again when I was 45. During the 30 years in between "I kissed a lot of frogs", as the saying goes. It has been my experience that true love unfolds effortlessly and it blows your mind. I wish you all the best. Seize the day my young friend because we never know what tomorrow will bring.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 February 2011):
Love = A lot of hard work.
That's about the only rule there really is. Love stories are fiction, and make it all sound easier than it is. Real love takes time, effort, trust, sex, commitment, compassion, empathy, care, happiness, anger, shutting up sometimes etc etc. It's a big thing, is love, and not as easy as it seems.
Sadly, no matter how much you care for someone, if they don't feel the above list for you, then they're not the one and they won't come. The girl you like right now probably won't come. But I'd argue that if she's not bothered about answering your texts or makes an effort, then she's not as great as she seems.
Good news? There are a lot of woman who will want a guy like you. You're a good, nice guy. That means for a while, you'll probably have to wait around (all nice guys do). But there is a woman out there waiting, and when you meet her and she meets you, if you work very hard, you'll have your love story.
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