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writes:How happy can one really expect to be in the relationship. I am starting to think that living with most man is kind of a boring routine, that includes their excessive computer use, lack of sexual and romantic interest after the initial stages of relationship. So many man are emotionally unavailable. I live with one for the last 5 years and i wonder if there is even a point to break up and look for someone new, since it will be just a slightly different twist on similar story. I am not saying i am a dream come true, but i did seek emotional and physical closeness at first, now i have given up and read books, exercise and work and also use computer. My boyfriend tells me i have high expectations, really, whats the point of being with someone if you are just living beside them, on the other hand it is better than being alone i guess.Any really happy ladies with their mates? How did you get relationship of your dreams, is it you or is it them or combination? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): Hi!! well I feel personally that this isnt a relationship!! no communication obviously ! Yes there is a point in leaving - for you , for him ....whether you meet someone else or not you are going to be much happier , being with someone simply for the sake of is the worst thing you can do for yourself . life will be existance and dis satisfaction , anything has to be better then that . Of course there are great relationships , but that depends on the two people within them , a good match !! Base foundation being trust and communication , sometimes we find all we need within a great companion , friendship ... give yourself and your partner there a chance to find some contentment - as it stands ? you appear to have no happiness - better to risk finding something better then remain stuck in a rut - good luck hun xx
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reader, guitar_dude  +, writes (3 October 2010):
Coming from a relationship that is on the rocks, also with a Canadian, I know that so much can get in the way of a happy relationship, work, stress, expectations really do suck romanvce out of a marriage. It takes allot of work to keep a relationship alive, even more if your partner does not want too. Have you tried suggesting doing something different? How about traveling, even if it's just for a day trip. Something to break up the routine.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (3 October 2010):
 So why not become single and live your life just for you?
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reader, daddylonglegs +, writes (3 October 2010):
I guess different people have there own take on what expectations you get from a relationship, it is a good question that you ask, not an easy one to answer, it is a combination of so many emotions, compatability is one of the keys (says him), having the same interests and involving each other in all sorts of activities certainly helps to forge a good relationship, wanting to be with that person and having a healthy physical closeness is all important.
Showing that you love that person everyday does not take much to do, little touches of affection, the odd gift no matter how small can make all the differance, making that effort is worth it, finding that person is a whole new ball game nothing comes easy it will be interesting to read the answers you receive from other readers.
Wish you luck what you do for the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): I truely love my relationship. I really do, we're both loyal to one another and trust one another too, but I know some people don't find what some would call 'true-love.'
I met my man through friends and we hit it off after about 2 years, (Long time huh?) where he thought I was a little, weird, then he found out it's just what makes me, me. Also another thing iis, I'm a big computer&Games fan as well as history/english and he likes computer&Games and history/english.
So, we understand eachother enough to know our habits and feelings towards other things, but we have our days where we can't stand one another to the point of seeing them. (Don't all relationships?)
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