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writes:he is 5yrs elder to me.. (im 22, he is 29) .. treats me like a kid, cares for me, calls me often .. I have totally fallen for him for the way he treats me .. I know him for many years thought we were not in touch. its only recently, after I met him we are in regular contact. how do I know if he likes me generally or is it something more ..how can I make him feel the same for me ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2011): "that love will come your way, and usually when you least expect it." .. this is what i feel happened with him .. :-|
1. LDR isn't a problem for me ..
2. last time we met was in Jan 2011 .. but before tht we met when i was in 9th grade! and he used to tell me before we met in jan that the he has of me was when I was in school and tht he gets the image of me as a little girl .. :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2011): Hi MysteriousGirl - As much as it pains me to say it, it doesn't sound as though things will develop.I think this based based particularly on a couple of things you say in your follow-up:1. You don't live in the same town/region/village/state? Long-distance relationships are notoriously difficult to maintain.2. The last time you met you were still a child? Perhaps that is the image of you he has fixed in his mind?I can only suggest that you try to put him out of your mind (and yes, I do know this won't be easy, but it can be done), get out and about, enjoy the company of your friends. Don't spend all your time dwelling on what might be ... you will find, in time, that love will come your way, and usually when you least expect it.With love.
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reader, mysteriousgirl +, writes (9 March 2011):
mysteriousgirl is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ StepfordWifeNot: like I said we stay in two different places .. and after childhood, I met him only recently .. twice .. and both times it's been only the two of us .. but this can also be because we didnt have any friends in common .. nor do we know each other's friends ... He'll never ask me out on a date because he thinks I'm too young .. so even if he wants to he won't! :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2011): You're asking is he my friend or a potential boyfriend?
Do you go out on dates? Has he asked you to go out on a date with him? When you are together are other people there, or is it just the two of you?
In all honesty, I think you wouldn't need to ask the question if your relationship was a romantic one, it would be obvious.
As for "making him feel the same for me" - you cannot, no-one can, and it's probably just as well!
Take a deep breath, step back, and don't try to force the situation. If it's meant to be it will happen.
I wish you a happy, healthy and peaceful life.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (8 March 2011):
 If he treats you like a kid, then he's not in love with you. He loves you like his kid sister.
You know if a guy is in love with you, by wanting to be with you, being romantic and affectionate.
You can't make someone have romantic feelings for you when they don't in the first place.
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