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writes:Are there any women here whose boyfriend's stopped watching porn because they felt they didn't need it anymore because they were satisfied fully? My ex claimed he would of stopped anyway if I hadn't of told him to stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2013): Do women stop watching romantic movies if they are satisfied with their boyfriend? Does a woman watching and enjoying a romantic movie indicate that her boyfriend or husband is not romantic enough so she needs to get her fill elsewhere?
Your question is based on false logic.
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (1 February 2013):
The problem with this line of though is linking satisfaction with you with porn use. This is the same mistake woman make regarding this issue over and over.
If he's using it daily, he has an addiction. Has nothing to do with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2013): doesn't porn change men's opinion of girls??
like objectification... I don't know if it happens... but men do seem to look at women as sex objects... and I think part of it is because of porn...
anyways if movies weren't made.. would sex be better? more private... more satisfying....? men would be happy just doing it.. instead of trying to do things which they saw... and would they want to have sex instead of masturbating..?
plus porn seems kinda unreal... like the moans are forced... everything is an act... I see porn and think.. wow this is a job... they are getting paid for acting like they enjoy it...
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reader, Beingblack +, writes (20 January 2013):
 I do not watch porn per se, but probably would do under different circumstances.
Generally, men do not watch porn because their girlfriend/wife/partner cannot satisfy them. Porn is for pure fantasy and masturbation. Telling a porn watcher to stop watching is telling him to stop masturbating. It will never happen.
The trouble is that men are reasonably open about masturbating. You ladies know we do it, maybe because we (men) brag about it a little. We watch the type of sexual activity that turns us on, and jack off while looking at it. I fully understand that if there is an actress on the screen, it looks like we are jacking off over HER. But believe me, that is usually far from true. It is the fantasy action that is the turn on, not the actress/actor. So any woman whose partner watches porn should never feel personally rejected, unless her man seems to prefer masturbation to sex.
Like many WOMEN do.
Women watch porn, women fantasise, and women masturbate. A lot.
Just like men do. They hardly EVER admit it though, especially not to a husband or boyfriend. Unlike men, women seem to be ashamed to admit to self exploration.
I work in TV, and recently used my research team for this very purpose. We spent a number of man (and woman) hours trawling through pages and pages of studies on female masturbation. There are many many studies, if you know where to look.
We found that over 95 per cent of women between the ages of 18 and 70 are active masturbators. Those who said no are probably lying.
But the astonishing thing was how often women masturbate. Some said weekly, most said daily, and a decent percentage are compulsive masturbators, finding or making the time to pleasure themselves 6 times a day and above.
So is it ok for a woman to spy through a mans history of computer use, and complain about what he watches to jack off, while sneaking behind his back, and furtively doing the same thing?
So the AVERAGE woman seems to despise the idea that her partner might want to watch porn and jack off, while she is happily wearing out the Rampant Rabbit on a daily basis. And doing it secretly to boot.
Perhaps we should re-phrase your question.
HAS ANYONE GOT A GIRLFRIEND WHO IS SO SATISFIED SHE GAVE UP MASTURBATING?
Hell no.
Trying to stop men and women masturbating will never happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2013): I think your ex was lying. If he truly would have stopped without you asking him to, then you wouldn't have had to ask.
That said, there are men out there who don't use it while in a relationship. Plenty do, but it isn't because they aren't satisfied. It's more just they want the visual for a quick release so they don't have to come up with a scenario in their head to masturbate to. Think about it, they can pull up a porn video and release within 30 seconds, whereas using their imagination can take 10-15 minutes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2013): *year lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2013): Porn in my opinion, isn't something you can take one yeah leave the next, its just a case of some people like to use it and others simply don't. I think if porn has just never appealed to a given person's nature, then chances are they'll never develop the taste for using it, and for those people whose nature it does appeal to, will always have a tendency to use it.
I admit, I'm one of those who porn does appeal to and I'm not ashamed to say it, its natural for me. I have a high sex drive, and if I'm in a relationship and for one reason or another sex isn't available, then I will use porn when I feel the need to. I'm currently single, and I use it quite frequently. I don't think anything will ever stop me from using it when I feel the need to.
That's just me and my opinion.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (19 January 2013):
 Men who use porn regularly aren't doing it because they aren't satisfied, they are doing it because it's a habit and therefore satisfies a different need.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2013): Ladies I still enjoy watching porn I'm 60 and happily married for 36 years, i just enjoy it.
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reader, Lolly_Poll +, writes (19 January 2013):
My other half doesn't watch it on his own, he says I'm all he needs. Having said that, it wouldn't be an issue for me even if he continued to watch it (we watch it together on occasion), I never asked him to stop he chose to. As far as I see it, porn is just visual stimulation, it isn't cheating as he isn't actually doing anything wrong. I don't think you can tell someone to stop doing something, perhaps ask them not to once you've explained how you feel on the topic.
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