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writes:ive been totally in love with my best friend for like 2 years and a couple weeks ago he told me he felt the same way so we started going out.so we've been fooling around and he can turn me on without any effort and even make me sqeal without trying (sorry for the visual) but it takes me ages to get him hard.i dont think its got anything to do with him being nervous, because he really isnt with me, i think its just because im not that experienced. very embarrasing.ive always felt so good about myself around him because he practically worships me like im out of his league or something, but i think that now he's seen me 'in action' he'll lose respect for me. i know it sounds stupid, but thats how it feels.so does anyone have any good tips for me or any tricks with handjobs i didnt know about? i could really use some.thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): What I do is rub him through his trousers like someone said. Rub him. My boyfriend gets hard from that. The start rubbing the tip of his penis. Sometimes rub it hardly. And he should get hard. Then go for the handjob.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (16 June 2008):
 Right if he practically worships you like youre out of his league, that may be why he isnt getting erect. He IS nervous as you are this amazing person to him. The best thing to do is not worry about technique but actually take this a bit slower. Dont even think about handjobs for a while. Just take it slow, lots of kissing and cuddling for now and the odd rub through his trousers to see if it does get hard. Build this up for a while and then take it to the next level. When you do just be gentle, boys/men dont want you to shake it off, use lubricant, baby gel oil is fab, and just caress it up and down. You will learn what he likes as all men are different x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): To the person that can't read: she isn't underage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): just 'fiddle' with it with your fingers, guys love that
let it slip between your fingers
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (16 June 2008):
It's nothing to do with technique hun.... he's going to come because there is a sexy girl on him, touching him.
Take your top off so he can see your chest jiggle as you do it, and smile and keep eye contact and pretend to be confident if you are not.
As long as you don't stick pins in him or yank his penis off then he is going to love it because he loves you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Manximus  +, writes (16 June 2008):
 Just be yourself hun. Try to remain calm and don't let the foreplay seem rushed or nervy.
Personally, I find it a turn on if a girl is confident with me and doesnt have to try too hard.
Just remember, he likes you for who you are, not for how well you can perform on a sexual level.
Take it in small steps and don't try to do too much too soon.
Talk to him as you touch him, use light slow touches at first to stimulate him. Maintain eye contact with him too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): I had the very same problem not so long ago so i know what you are talking about. The main thing is dont pull the foreskin back to far as it really hurts guys! The foresking is the skin at the top of the penis that rolls back when you begin to give a handjob.Spend lots of time kissing and run your hands around his upper thighs for a little minute to get him in the mood. Take a firm grip on the penis and start moving the skin up and down slowly, then getting faster and faster. Most guys like it pretty fast but ask to make sure. Then using your thumg lightly massage the top of his penis as it is the most sensitive part and again they will enjoy this. Let him know you are having fun with it and he will enjoy it. Keep kissing him if you can as this adds to the turned on mood. Hope this helps
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reader, tammye17  +, writes (16 June 2008):
 all i can say is.....lotion....lotion and him letting you know how he want's it...slow or fast...focus on the tip of his head...good luck...don't worry iam pretty sure hes not experience either:)
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